- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
Hi fellow bees,
I just got married 5-23-10!! We are honeymooning later this year so we haven’t done much after the wedding – spent a few days on the coast relaxing, then home hanging out with family.
My now-hubby and I planned and organized most of our wedding, and we only hired a DOC near the end. I’m a weird combination of type-A planner and super-sensitive, which meant that while I was a obsessive control freak in planning the wedding, I was also super concerned about not being a bridezilla and not imposing on people. I think I spent most of my wedding day asking everyone, “are you ok? are you having a good time?” So I don’t think it was till a day or so after the wedding I started processing how _I_ felt about everything.
I only have two big regrets: I bought my dress at a sample sale – I loved the design, but it was a size 10 and I’m a size 2. My seamstress did an amazing job cutting it down to my size, but we decided to put in bust cups instead of me wearing a bra. I picked up the dress two days before the wedding and find the bust cups are not shaped pads or an underwire but basically two foam-filled pads sewn in. Since they don’t conform to my boobs but just kind of sit on top of them, the top of the bodice (it’s strapless) now doesn’t sit flat against my chest so it seems like anyone can look down my dress! The seamstress tries to cinch in the top as much as possible but finally says, “I can’t do anything more, the dress was just too big and I’d have to take the whole dress apart again to remove more fabric from the top.” I end up wearing a strapless bra to try and fill up the extra space, but in some of the early non-pro photos, the top of the dress seems to be doing the dreaded strapless-top-standing-out-from-your-chest thing and makes me look flat – and I’m not flat! I really wish I had made her finish the dress earlier so I could have tried it on and come up with a fix – at two days before wedding, I had no time left to find a better undergarment that might have supported me or filled out the dress.
The other thing was that I wanted a dessert table at my reception with little petit fours for the guests to take home. I ordered them from a local bakery and I told the DOC to direct the reception staff to set them up. However, for whatever reason, by the end of the evening it still isn’t set up. Worse, my hubby decides to announce on the mike that there is a dessert table open. (in his defense, he told me that it looked like guests were getting ready to go, so he didn’t want them to run out early and miss dessert). So I go over the dessert table and people are already swarming it, while the reception staff is still trying to set it up, DOC is nowhere to be found, and I don’t know what to do. In retrospect, I probably should have grabbed the mike and asked people to sit back down until the table is ready. But I didn’t want to make a fuss and look rude. However, afterwards I was upset because I *really* wanted a photo of the table all nicely set up, and likely there will be none. My DOC did a pretty good job otherwise, so I don’t know I should complain to her – I’m also blaming myself for not emphasizing to her that I really needed it set up before the end. There were plenty of times during the reception when I noticed it wasn’t set up yet, but I thought that well, my DOC would take care of it, and my gosh, wasn’t I supposed to be enjoying my reception and not still stressing out?
In almost all other respects, I’m happy with how the wedding went. My hubby says I should feel really good about it since we did almost all the work ourselves. When I think of all the other things that could have gone wrong – we had a chance of being rained out, that would have been a disaster! – I feel like we had a very good wedding day. So why can’t I let go of these little things? I’ve already complained enough to hubby, I don’t want to make him feel worse and think he married an obsessive neurotic! And I also am sick of feeling bad about these things. I want to be happy and only remember the good parts of the day.
Thanks for letting me vent, bees! I just needed to get those things off my chest, and hopefully find a way to let go of them!!