Post # 1
I am having a hard time letting go of some of the drama I have experienced during wedding planning. My Fiance’s family did not agree with some of the decisions made regarding our wedding. Unfortunately, the situation got very nasty and a lot of mean things were said about me which I either overheard or was told. I do not want to get into specifics but the stuff that was said crushed me. While one of his family members did apologize I am having a hard time trying to get over it all. I know I will be seeing them at the wedding and I plan on being polite. However, I am really having a hard time trying to figure out what to do after the wedding. I do not really want to be around these people again but family events and holidays wiill eventually have us all in the same room. Any thoughts?
Post # 3
@californiabride2013: have you spoke to your FI about this? My family is pretty shitty too. However, I was able to not invite certain people because crap happened before invites were sent.
I would suggest keeping your distance and if you should see them on holidays, say hello and that is all.
Post # 4
@californiabride2013: Forget the things you were told were said about you. You have no idea if what was repeated to you was misinterpreted, exaggerated, or even truthful. If anyone else wants to tell you tales, tell them you don’t want to here it.
weddings can produce a lot of drama. Try to let it go as best you can after the wedding. You don’t have to be best buds with everyone but be polite and gracious. See if there is the potential to build a better relationship with those that have hurt or offended you and be open to the possibility yourself.
Post # 5
@californiabride2013: It’s hard to comment without any of the details, but if your FI’s family was insulting you then I hope he came to your defense. FI and I cut toxic people out of our lives, family or not, and he always puts me first. I would expect that from a life partner. I don’t blame you for how you’re feeling and I hope your partner gives you the support that you need.
Post # 6
DH helped combat those who were crude to me. I suck it up, see them, and smile. His sister was the worst to deal with, but at the wedding she apoloigized profusely, and we made up. She saw all my hard work that I put into planning come to life, and she felt bad about judging my decisions. It was easy to let go after that.
Don’t let themget you down, especially over choices about the wedding. Keep your head held high and hopefuloly your FI helps defend you.