Post # 1
Bees! I loved my wedding so much, it was so much fun, and I wouldn’t change anything about it! I worked so hard getting ready for the big day. Not only on the little DIY stuff, but also on myself! I bought a sample, size 12 dress, and lost enough weight to have it taken in to a size 8. Pretty big deal!! I was at the gym everyday, and I loved it.
But now that the wedding is over, I feel like I have nothing to woro for anymore. I have no motivation to get up and get my butt to the gym, or to do any of the things I enjoyed doing before the wedding.
Don’t get me wrong, I am so happy that we are finally married, and that we are starting our life together and trying to make a family, but a part of me feel so down.
Anyone else going through something like this?
Post # 4
I’m so sorry you are feeling this way. I’m still a waiting bee, so I can’t say I have any insight, but do you have any hobbies, anything you used to do that somehow in the last few years have gone by the way side just due to life? Maybe motivate yourself to go to the gym with the “promise” to yourself it’ll be worth it when you go on an anniversary vacation? 🙂
Post # 5
hey i can’t relate personally because i’m not married, but i could totally see this and as we start thinking about getting married I’ve actually wondered if people feel this way! i could totally imagine this happens!
either way, i think it’s rad you were able to motivate yourself and do healthy stuff! maybe you just need another goal, like some people like having a 5k to a marathon ahead to train for to motivate themselves. or maybe you could switch your workout routine to involve some sport or skill that would be motivating to get better at? or maybe just a new gym buddy??
if you’re trying for a family, i would also think of this time rather than a let down as a relaxing break before the next big planning/life phase, having a baby!
mostly i hope you don’t feel like there’s anything wrong with how you feel. i would accept it for what it is because it makes sense to me to feel that way. but i bet you only feel it for so long. if it were me i’d be looking in the mirror all day super happy if i lost that many dress sizes! haha! i think you have a lot of awesome stuff going on for you right now, so once the initial bounce back after the wedding is over you’ll be able to enjoy all those great things!
Post # 6
I can really relate! No more motivation…Ive gained 10 lbs back since the wedding, most of it on the honeymoon. I’m happy to be married, My wedding didn’t go perfect. I’m having a lot of post wedding regrets, as far as things not going perfect. I got my pro pics today…no pictures of our cupcakes, or our candy bar.
Post # 7
@chillinchillin: I am so excited to start a family, and I do look at this time as a relaxing time before the new phase begins. But I still need something now, other than just sitting on my behind, being happy! But you’re probably right, this feeling isn’t going to last forever, so I just have to push through it, so that I can enjoy every moment!
@clairykoo: I’m sorry you have post wedding regret 🙁 I’m sure it was far more wonderful than you thought!
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I was talking to my hairdresser about this when I went in for my post-wedding chop- she calls it “post-event trauma.” It’s only natural to have a let-down when the momentum of the wedding is over.
I like chillinchillin’s idea of training for a 5K. Or someother goal. Give yourself another project. And this will pass. 🙂
Post # 9
I kind of feel the same. I’m sad that there’s nothing important that I have to work towards right now, and that our moment is gone. We’ve been working towards that day for SO LONG and now, it’s just, normal life, and that makes me a little sad. I know I’ll get over it, it’s just taking a little bit of time. My hubby knows how I feel about it, and is doing everything he can to make me feel better and just that makes me feel better every day. 🙂
Post # 10
@mrsaponte: My cousin got married in July and said she went through this after her honeymoon. I’m getting myself ready for it too. There’s’ just so much anticipation up to the event and then what after? I think focusing on a goal would be a great way to get over your slump! Maybe focus on the upcoming holidays?