(Closed) post-wedding sadness/depression?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Were you depressed after your wedding?!
    No... so glad to get it over with : (6 votes)
    43 %
    YES! loved planning and all the excitement : (8 votes)
    57 %
  • Post # 3
    2622 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think this is perfectly normal for many people. The more time you spend planning the details, thinking about the planning, etc the more you will miss it after the fact. It was a big part of your life for a long while.

    It will eventually start to subside, but maybe turn those planning tendencies to something else. Plan some DIY decorating projects. Start a pinterest board with those projects or your dream living room and slowly piece it together.

    Of plan brunches/dinner parties etc with friends. You can research recipes, try new dishes, look up table scapes etc. 

    Post # 4
    1461 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I felt a little sad after the wedding because it was so fun and I wished we could have had more time to bask in it. I think it does go away eventually. I find that looking at pictues and focusing on how great it was and how blessed we were to have so many people who care about us come to celebrate helps me feel better.

    I also second finding something else to fill your time. We just moved into a new apartment so getting everything set up and decorated has helped me fill my time with fun things to do.

    Post # 5
    789 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I worried that I would feel that way but I really didn’t. I was glad it was over. We had a Destination Wedding in the Bahamas and an “at home” reception almost a month later. It didn’t involve tons of people but the planning felt overwhelming. I was so thrilled the day after the party! My daughter and husband were returning to school and new schedules, my work was busy so it was a relief to focus on those things.

    It does help to have something else to fill the time. If you have the money and the time, I’d suggest planning a getaway for just the two of you – like a road-trip or something fun and easy for a weekend. You can also sign up for a class together or do a re-decoration project. I’m not sure if it’s a backlash from the wedding, but I find myself itching to do some things around the house like remodeling or decorating, hell even moving the furniture around would be fun! I guess it’s a bit of nesting even though we’ve lived together for 3 years. So feather your nest and enjoy being married.

    Post # 6
    386 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I am worried I will feel this way. I am going to focus on decorating my home after the wedding. I have not been able to do much with it because of the wedding and at the rate I do things it should take years for me to finish lol.

    Post # 7
    11366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Yes, it’s very normal to feel that way. I definitely felt this way after my wedding. I was quite upset, because I felt as if I missed out on my own reception. Everyone had a fabulous time, and people later raved about how much they enjoyed our wedding. However, Darling Husband and I missed our entire hors d’oeuvres hour, plus a great deal of our short reception having pics taken, most of which didn’t really turn out the way I wanted. I never had time to greet or interact with the majority of my guests, some of whom are from out of state and I seldom, if ever, see. I felt as if I had waited for this incredibly important day my entire life, and I planned nearly every detail, but I essentially missed out on almost everything but the most important part — the ceremony. I am extremely thankful that I did have the opportunity to savor that! Try to be thankful that you had such an amazing day, and try not to dwell on the past, because, if you do, you will begin missing the present. I know; trust me on that.

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