- 6 years ago
Basically, this couple who we’ve been pretty close with since we started dating had their sitter plans fall through and called us like two weeks before the wedding, asking if they could bring their one month old baby to the wedding. Immediately, I was like yeah of course then after chatting with family and our parents, we thought it would be best if they did not – especially since the invitation said, Adults only and at one point my husband’s friend said the baby screams very loud. I mean we felt bad, but it was kinda hard to accommodate everyone. So anyways, we told them no. Then, afterwards things got weird, like the husband RSVP’d yes to the rehearsal dinner, but then the day after we said no, he said he couldn’t come anymore because of work. But after the wedding, honestly I was kinda hurt we had no acknowledgement from them, no congratulations, no card, no gift. It was like we never got married. And like two months before that, I had planned a baby shower for the wife. When they got married a few years ago, we drove down to their wedding, gave them a very generous present, but didn’t think anything of it, because obviously we were so happy for them. Anyways, it’s literally months later and neither one of us has made an effort to talk and honestly, I’m so done with people like this. I feel like the world doesn’t have to revolve around you at all times. I feel like I am the “bad guy” who made the decision which ultimately made things go sour, but I knew that if something went wrong that day I would be a mess.
The kicker is that my husband being the happy go lucky person he is, doesn’t see a problem with the situation at all. I’ve tried to be “politically correct” for lots of things like included him in my husband’s birthday party, etc..but the husband has cut me out.
At this point, I would rather wash my hands of them as well….but what do you, when your husband is good friend’s with the guy and you obviously want to be a supportive spouse. Do you agree to disagree?!? Because frankly…..I don’t want to associate myself with selfish people..