Post # 1
I have a placement to work at an american summer camp from mid-June this year, and it is something I have wanted to do for a few years now and this year it just seemed to work out.
I am very nervous about going and am not sure how well I can do it, but one of my biggest concerns is that I will have only been married for 1 month at that point! I’m worried whether it will have a bad affect to spend 2 months away from my husband so soon after our wedding……….any thoughts?
We had a long-distance relationship for 2 years, so in some ways we will be prepared for the separation, but 2 months apart will still be the longest we have gone without seeing each other.
Post # 3
I could have written this a year ago! My Fiance and I were long distance, and right after I moved in with him, I got an offer to work at a summer camp for 8 weeks. I had wanted to do this for a long time and was a great opportunity… but when it came down to it, I just couldn’t imagine being away from my Fiance any longer now that I had moved in. I ended up turning down the job and don’t regret it, but I also work in a job that makes me think “what if my Fiance was suddenly taken away from me? Would I regret not spending that time with him?” You have to choose what’s right for your life and if you’ll look back and regret anything. Either way, good luck!!!
Post # 4
I think in the long run 2 months is a very short amount of time.You have gone longer with out seeing him I am guessing. I think there are a few sindes to this you need to look at.
1. Will you regret not doing it?
2. Will it help you in some way (ie career, life goal ect)
3. Will you r new husband be able to visit?
4. have you talked to your Fiance about this and how does he feel?
Post # 5
I don’t know where you are coming from or what camp you are considering (and what position). These things will all effect oyur experience. That being said, I too had wanted to work at summer came for some years and did for two awesome summers in college. I loved both summers and only wish it was acceptable to take summers off from my real job to continue and work at camp. I was in a relationship when I first applied and about the time I accepted the job, the relationship got serious and I thought about declining so we could spend the summer together but I decided I wantes to stick with camp. We wrote letters daily and it was a lot of fun getting mail, even though the messages were often on a delay. Twice he met me half way on a day off, this is a benefit oyu would not have as an international but maybe he could meet you for some post-camp travels? Things to consider in your decision. In my experience, both at the girls camp I was at and our neighboring boys camps, no one was married. There were several international workers and former campers making a diverse staff and everyone was super freindly. Most of the staff was under 21 and in college. So, nights off generally involve socializing with neighboring staffs, going to bars in the nearest town if you are of age or hanging out and drinking in the woods if you are not. Some of the neighboring camps (we all met in the one town) had night curfews, we did not. These are the type of things that vary from camp to camp, we were allowed to use the facilities on our day off (ex. boating on the lake), others were not, etc.
You really need to determine what your motivations were to apply and if they still stand. I think talking to your Fiance about how he feels is important too. 8 weeks is really not so long but if you will both be miserable it is not worth it. There is also the issue of temptation, since a lot of staff are single, you may end up in a situation you are not comfortable with. I recall a couple of instances of serious flirting and know of a few people who crossed lines while at camp with boyfriends at home. I don’t want to make this sound negative but give you an idea of the realities of a staff summer at camp. I would go back in a second if I had the chance, even now as a married woman out of college but that is not the typical demographic. Before I go on forever, just PM me if I can help.
Post # 6
Thank you for your amazing responses, it’s interesting to hear when people have been in similar situations. 🙂
My fiance worked at a summer camp for 3 years, and had the time of his life, so he is torn between really missing me and also really wanting me to go because he knows how much I’ll enjoy it. As he can be quite selfless, his final word on it was that he thinks I should go.
As for visiting, he won’t be able to because of work (he’ll have used most of his holiday allowance over our wedding/honeymoon, and will need to save the rest for christmas when we go home to visit our families), and the fact that he will be at our home in London, UK.
Regarding my age, I’ll only be 25 and so not much older than most counsellors. I have actually expressed the same concerns about being the only married person there to the camp director and she said they have other married couples there.
The temptaion thing…..well to be honest I have thought about this myself, but I have always been good at resisting temptation when it involved doing something wrong, and more importantly I’m madly in love with my fiance, so this shouldn’t be a problem. I do agree though that it would have been better to do camp when I was single, so that I could enjoy the flirting/high-school-ness that comes with camp.
Lastly, as for regrets….I have a feeling I might regret not doing it…..but there’s also an additional element to mention – towards the end of this year it is very likely that we will be moving abroad to take up job offers in the Middle East. So, I also don’t want to regret not spending our last summer in our first home in the UK, and not spending more time with my family and friends before we make this move abroad. I also don’t want to end up feeling distanced from my husband just before we make a hugh life-change for which we will need to support each other greatly.
Really appreciate the feedback.