(Closed) Post your wedding/baby/home unsolicited “suggestions/advice” from parents/FIL’s!

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My mom suggested a couple things I thought were funny:

— First, she said she thought the wedding would be under $5,000. Total. I definitely want to keep it on a budget, but with the average in our area being $40,000, I’m hoping to stay under 20! Nowhere near 5.

— She also suggested that I rent my dress. I know this is an option for some people, but I’ve mentioned before that i intend to keep my dress, so obviously renting wouldn’t be viable. Jeez!

Post # 4
646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Her suggestions aren’t totally out of this world and seem kind of sentimental in nature – I wonder if she just wants to play a part and feel important?

I understand your aversion to her suggestions so far, though.

Maybe her weird suggestions would subside if you gave her a role or two? She may just want to help 🙂

Post # 5
14 posts
  • Wedding: March 2012

– “you should add your cousin you haven’t seen in 8 years to your wedding party because her mother, aka your (crazy and mean) aunt, threatened to not come to your wedding if her daughter wasnt’ in the wedding party” + 3 months of constant “you should put your cousin in your wedding party.  she’ll never get to be in any other wedding except maybe her sister’s.  your aunt will be disappointed and won’t come”    – my grandmother, condoning absolutely idiotic behaviour 

“i know you’d prefer to only have your father and I walk you down the aisle, but can we just add on your stepdad too? he can hold onto my arm. it would mean so much to both of us” – my mother, on why i should walk down the aisle with an entire soul train and include a man that was abusive and made my childhood hell.

my response:


Post # 8
14 posts
  • Wedding: March 2012

@MsNarwhal:  seriously.  It’s going to look really stupid, but more importantly, why would I walk down the aisle with somebody I don’t even LIKE?

Post # 9
1820 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

LOL.  This is a great thread.

My current misery is “If you could just relax, you’ll get pregnant.”

Post # 10
1493 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

During Thanksgiving, we saw some family friends at my parents’ house with my brother, SIL, two nephews, and a niece there. They were talking about the kids and being grandparents. My dad is happy with the current set of grandkids, but would like another aka husband and I. Yep, he wants another “set” of grandkids.

My mom learned about Skype that same weekend. She said that she plans to Skype us everyday when we have kids, so she can see them. We live all of a 100 miles away from them.

Post # 11
41 posts

I’m not engaged yet and a far way off from being pregnant, but I’m not looking forward to the unsolicited advice I know I will receive. It helps to read that many of you have to deal with it, and I know I can come here and vent. I just feel so sorry for my pregnant friend, because ever since she announced she’s expecting her FB has been innundated with comments from other friends/co workers who have children, telling her what they did about such & such and how their experience was. Unless there is a nice way to tell them bluntly? I wish I could say something myself, telling them to back off, but I know it would create a mess. I’m sure she lets the comments roll off her back, but I know this has always bugged me and I won’t be as nice when I’m engaged or pregnant

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