Post # 1
If the title wasnt clear, post what your future in laws or your parents have suggested that you do with your wedding/kids/whatever that you have no intention of using…
My Future Mother-In-Law suggested that we have pictures of family members weddings displayed at our cocktail hour…I know she only wants to do this because she is still obsessed with showing off her wedding dress (from 30 years ago). I quickly shot this down as my parents dont have any wedding photos since theirs were ruined by their photographer. So Im obviously not going to have just wedding pics from their side on display…
This evening my Future Mother-In-Law came into my Fiance bedroom and pulled out the clothes he wore when he came home from the hospital. She said, “dont you want to dress up your baby in the hospital with this?! Its tradition! Aunt Suzy stitched it! Both (my FI) and (his brother) wore this when they came back from the hospital!” My Fiance interjected that it gave him a rash and that no, we will be buying our baby new clothes to wear home from the hospital. And honestly, if I was going to have my kids wear something on the way back from the hospital its a) not going to be from a long dead aunt that my Fiance and I never met. b) its old and kinda gross looking. c) i dont want to give my newborn a rash!?
She also suggested that we have the random neighbors across the street be flower girl and ring bearer..or if it was windy they could hold up the chuppah..umm no I dont want random kids in my wedding party, thanks though.
My mom suggested that we have a candy buffet and a dessert bar and an espresso bar which I shot down by telling her our guests would probably die from a sugar high..maybe having one of those things would be okay though.
So bee’s what suggestions from family members have you smiled and nodded and had no intention of ever using?
Post # 3
My mom suggested a couple things I thought were funny:
— First, she said she thought the wedding would be under $5,000. Total. I definitely want to keep it on a budget, but with the average in our area being $40,000, I’m hoping to stay under 20! Nowhere near 5.
— She also suggested that I rent my dress. I know this is an option for some people, but I’ve mentioned before that i intend to keep my dress, so obviously renting wouldn’t be viable. Jeez!
Post # 4
Her suggestions aren’t totally out of this world and seem kind of sentimental in nature – I wonder if she just wants to play a part and feel important?
I understand your aversion to her suggestions so far, though.
Maybe her weird suggestions would subside if you gave her a role or two? She may just want to help 🙂
Post # 5
– “you should add your cousin you haven’t seen in 8 years to your wedding party because her mother, aka your (crazy and mean) aunt, threatened to not come to your wedding if her daughter wasnt’ in the wedding party” + 3 months of constant “you should put your cousin in your wedding party. she’ll never get to be in any other wedding except maybe her sister’s. your aunt will be disappointed and won’t come” – my grandmother, condoning absolutely idiotic behaviour
“i know you’d prefer to only have your father and I walk you down the aisle, but can we just add on your stepdad too? he can hold onto my arm. it would mean so much to both of us” – my mother, on why i should walk down the aisle with an entire soul train and include a man that was abusive and made my childhood hell.
Post # 6
@lumos: Given her past behavior I honestly think shes trying to live vicariously through my Fiance and I. Plus after I tell her no, thanks though she KEEPS bringing it up as if suddenly Ill change my mind.
Post # 7
@djminou: Haha love it! As if you want a whole circus troop hanging on you while youre trying to walk down the aisle.
Post # 8
@MsNarwhal: seriously. It’s going to look really stupid, but more importantly, why would I walk down the aisle with somebody I don’t even LIKE?
Post # 9
LOL. This is a great thread.
My current misery is “If you could just relax, you’ll get pregnant.”
Post # 10
During Thanksgiving, we saw some family friends at my parents’ house with my brother, SIL, two nephews, and a niece there. They were talking about the kids and being grandparents. My dad is happy with the current set of grandkids, but would like another aka husband and I. Yep, he wants another “set” of grandkids.
My mom learned about Skype that same weekend. She said that she plans to Skype us everyday when we have kids, so she can see them. We live all of a 100 miles away from them.
Post # 11
I’m not engaged yet and a far way off from being pregnant, but I’m not looking forward to the unsolicited advice I know I will receive. It helps to read that many of you have to deal with it, and I know I can come here and vent. I just feel so sorry for my pregnant friend, because ever since she announced she’s expecting her FB has been innundated with comments from other friends/co workers who have children, telling her what they did about such & such and how their experience was. Unless there is a nice way to tell them bluntly? I wish I could say something myself, telling them to back off, but I know it would create a mess. I’m sure she lets the comments roll off her back, but I know this has always bugged me and I won’t be as nice when I’m engaged or pregnant