Post # 1
I just happened on some online article that mentions you need to remember to put postage on the RSVP card when sending out invitations and it took me off guard because I had not even considered that.
Postage to send out our invites will already cost us more than $100. I get that it is our event but it doesnt seem like a big deal for me that people either find their own stamp or RSVP by phone or email. Otherwise postage alone will cost over $200, and if they dont use the RSVP card that money is wasted. Maybe it sounds cheap of us but we are not at all weathy and are trying to keep costs from piling up, but I still prefer real invites over emailed ones
Is it totally rude not to include postage on the RSVP card? Has anyone gotten away with this?
Post # 2
Not technically rude as RSVP cards aren’t required. However, putting on the postage will probably help ensure that more people send thier reply in. Basically, the easier you make it for people the more likely they are to do it. Personally, I would say it’s worth the money to avoid the headache of tracking people down…but then again there’s often complaints on here of people not RSVPing no matter how easy the couple made it so it’s really your call.
Post # 3
We didn’t put postage on the RSVP cards for cost reasons, but we also had web and email options for RSVP so that guests wouldn’t have to pay postage in those response settings.
Post # 4
It seems to me like going after people for RSVPs is pretty standard so I wont worry too much about that. Considering how much it costs I think its just easier to hunt people down, although if money wasnt so tight I can see the value of it
Post # 5
I am definetly okay with providing free options for people to RSVP. I think many of the guests would prefer to email their RSVP anyways. Just wasnt sure if the less tech savvy people on the list would be offended by the lack of postage, I suppose they could call as well. I dont think it is a worthwhile expense when only a few people will use it
Post # 6
You could send postage to the older people who you think will be turned off by rsvp’ing online. That is what we did.
I did not want to pay to give everybody a stamp so we just gave one to the people who we felt would be most inclined to mail it in. Everybody else rsvp’d through our website or in person or on the phone (and I’d just write down their meal choice on my spreadsheet).
Post # 7
I did an online rsvp so didn’t include a response card. I had to reach out to the majority of my guests to confirm if they would come. Biggest pain, but I expected it from my crowd and from experience planning larger parties.
The value really is that it will increase the number of responses you get. No stamp is just an added hurdle to putting that card in the mail. Why include response cards at all if they can reply online? Save yourself the cost of those cards/envelopes.
Post # 8
If you’re including the RSVP card w/ envelope, yes. Know that if you don’t you’ll have a lot of people bitching behind your back.
It’s only $100, suck it up.
Post # 9
If you are doing the traditional send us back an rsvp through snail mail then yes, it’s only appropriate to put postage on it. If you include other options besides the snail mail like phone, email etc then I think it’s ok to not include postage because there are options.
Post # 10
Also, not sure where you are, but for rsvp to cost $100 you must have a huge invite list. In u.s. that would get 200 invites plus couples/families only need 1 so are you having a 300-400 person wedding? If so, is $100 for postage really that much in the grand scheme?
Post # 11
If you want them to send them back, then postage is required. If you have a website then it is not needed.
Post # 12
You really should do whatever you can to make sending a response card back convenient, which means including a stamp. Honestly, it wouldn’t cross my mind that a response card wouldn’t include postage, and there’a a small chance I’d drop it in the mail without adding my own stamp because it’s so common to already have one included.
Post # 13
stamps are 49 cents. so for it to cost you $100, that is 200 rsvp cards. generally you invited couple. so i will round maybe you are inviting some families and some singles. it sounds like your wedding is 300+ people. in the scheme of things is $100 really gonna make or break.
put a stamp on it, don’t be cheap.
Post # 14
I am planning to leave postage off for those that I know will rsvp online, but put it on for those who won’t – for example, a friend of mine who works as a computer programmer is getting no stamp, but my aunt who doesn’t own a smartphone and still has dial up Internet on her 15 year old computer is getting a stamp.
Post # 15
It is not rude. People are supposed to respond to an RSVP on their own, even without any self addressed, pre-stamped reply envelopes. The etiquette sticklers even claim that people should be offended to receive the latter since it implies you think they would be inconsiderate and incapable otherwise.
But people these days are so used to the crutch that there may be those who wrongly think you were “cheap” or improper.
The truth is, people who refuse to reply are likely to be rude either way.