Postage on the RSVP? Is it really important?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 31
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Busy Beekeeper

If you want to get them back and save yourself hours of hassle trying to follow up wtih people, then yes, spend the money, or add online/phone/email RSVPs.

I dont know a single person who keeps stamps around, so they will probably have to go to the post office, forget about it and it wont get done. I mean, people have a hard enough time getting back their pre-stamped ones, you really want to make it harder on yourself? Lol.

Post # 32
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Honey Beekeeper

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cherryberrypie :  I think the opposite. Compared to the time and effort and money that goes into hosting someone at a wedding, a stamp is nothing.

For the record, I included stamps! 

Post # 33
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Worker bee

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bellsprout :  this is how you converse with people? ‘shit at life’?  EEK!  i’ve seen a lot of rudeness on this board, but this might take the cake. 

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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letmebeeme :  Really?  I don’t think my rant is as bad as some of the serious crap I’ve seen here on occasion – And yes it probably is how I converse with people IRL, the difference is that behind a screen people will always take anything you say as some sort of personal abuse and not the baffled sarcasm in which it’s meant.  Most people I speak with in my everyday life would probably laugh off the ‘shit at life’ comment and ask to borrow a stamp.

 

 

Post # 35
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Worker bee

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bellsprout :  oh, sorry…  i didn’t realize you are on personal level relationships with other posters.  my mistake.  you aren’t rude, just truly familiar with folks on here.

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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letmebeeme :  I’m sorry my sarcasm doesn’t translate – but I’m really not going to lose any sleep over it.

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Maybe look into postcard RSVPs? The cost for a postcard stamp is only $0.35 which will help to cut your costs some. 

Post # 44
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Worker bee

I don’t use stamps, so when I need to mail something with a stamp, I have to go get one from the post office. When I set aside money for invites in my budget, I also included postage for STD, invites, and RSVP cards. I will buy cheaper invites to make sure I have the money for postage. I don’t want people to have to put a stamp on something I am asking them to send back to me. I don’t want to do online RSVPs and the last thing I want to do is keep track of text/call RSVPs. However, if I got an invite and the postage was not on the RSVP card, I would probably roll my eyes, but then I would just go to the post office and get a stamp. Not a huge deal, but an added step for guests who don’t normally have stamps on hand. 

I just got an invite for a friend’s wedding in the mail, the RSVP had postage on it already. I opened it, filled it out, and put it back in the mailbox the next day. It would have been on my fridge for weeks before I got to the post office to get a stamp, so if you want them back quickly, I would add postage. You could also try online RSVPs, I know a ton of brides enjoy that feature on wedding websites.

Post # 45
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Busy bee

I’d definitely put a reply via email/website option. Although, if you’re already nickel and diming $200 on postage, maybe a large and expensive wedding isn’t for you. 

ETA: Not judging, I opted out of a large wedding for exactly the same reasons. 

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