Postage on the RSVP? Is it really important?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 62
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2511 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

If you don’t want to do stamps then do online RSVP only.

If you want to do both, IMO you need to do stamps.

FWIW, We are doing both (giving the option for online but also including traditional RSVP cards) and we will be including stamps. 

 

I have gotten one RSVP card without a stamp and not going to lie I gave it side eye. 

Post # 63
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3451 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

niahc :  ‘My family will just be happy that I am getting married!’ 😄 Same here. But for the love of the moon if you do strictly mail in RSVPs PLEASE include a stamp. Its not mandatory but greatly appreciated. If there’s an online, email, text or call option thats great and I wouldn’t worry about stamps. Seriously can’t even remember the last time I needed a stamp so while I’d suck it up and trudge to the post office for ONE funky stamp I definitely wouldn’t be happy about it. lol

Post # 64
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2899 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I don’t think I’ve ever received a wedding invitation that did not have a stamp on the RSVP envelope, so we included them on ours and didn’t give it a second thought.  Even though we do most of our banking and bill paying online, we still have some stamps lying around but I know a lot of people don’t.  If you can budget it, I would.  RSVPs are hard enough to chase down and if you can make it easier on your guests, I would.

Post # 65
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218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m only mailing two reply cards to our grandmothers, they will have stamps. Otherwise, I’m only sending the invitation itself, there’s no other accompaniments (reply cards, maps, etc.). We created a webpage for that and with the exceptions of our grandmothers there is no one on our guest list who is uncomforable with RSVPing online.

For me personally, I would include a stamp with the RSVP envelopes and that’s why I didn’t include them. I purchase stamps, printed the invitations and bought envelopes for 100 people for about $200. The stamps and envelopes will also be used for the thank you cards.

Post # 66
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1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Like others have commented, our RSVP cards said “please rsvp at ourwebsite or mail this card in” so since we gave them the option to rsvp online, we didn’t give them postage. Some people have mailed them in so far with their own stamps, but most have used the online option! We wouldn’t have even had mail-in rsvp cards but they came free with our invites so we did 🙂 No one has complained so far!

Post # 67
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

niahc :  you’re not obligated to spend more on a wedding than the cost of a license and an officiant to file it. 

 

BUT – if less than 100 bucks is a make-or-break for you, you’re best to skip the big wedding and get yourself an emergency fund instead of a party. Have the party you can afford, but make sure you can really afford it.

and I have zero against online rsvp’s, I think they’re great. They save money, trees and time putting together a spreadsheet. But – if you send out an RSVP card and expect it to come back, put a stamp either on it or with it. 

 

Post # 68
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Bee Keeper

I’d put a stamp on it. It’s annoying to have to go buy stamps to RSVP to someone elses wedding. Plus I think you can get the postcard stamps which are cheaper. But you’d have to ask the post office..

Post # 69
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1739 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I have never received a rsvp card without a stamp. 

The stamp here is 0.85 each yet I still managed to put one on all cards. If you expect them to mail it in, then yes, you should include a stamp. 

Other rsvp options then no. 

I don’t typically have stamps on me as I don’t mail anything ever. 

Post # 71
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3220 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

niahc :  cool, you do you.

 

im a little confused then as to why you posted this as a question since you’ve got it all sorted out already.

Post # 73
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2795 posts
Sugar bee

Do you want the RSVP’s back? If so, then yes, you need to include postage. If you’re that hard up for money, skip the response card and have RSVP by phone or email only.

Post # 74
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216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017 - Sauk Valley Resort

Not going to lie, I was considering this too. But then I got an invite over the weekend with a non-working website to RSVP on and no stamp to send the response card back. Sooo, because I found myself irritated by that, I’m putting stamps on them.

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