(Closed) Postcard thank you notes?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What would you think if you received a postcard thank you?
    I would be happy that I got a thank you note! : (45 votes)
    85 %
    I would think that it was cheap, tacky, or icky for some other reason. : (8 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    7609 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    As long as you’re actually writing something personal on the back, I wouldn’t care in the least if it was on a card or a postcard.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    As long as there’s a handwritten note on the back, it’s fine. Any thank you card is better than none at all

    Post # 5
    Member
    5890 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    i agree with juliepants

    Post # 6
    Member
    2106 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    If you have a formal/semi formal wedding and you send out postcards, it will look cheap. From my perspective, the save the date, invitation, program, thank yous, etc…. all paper products should match, at least in formality. In the same way you wouldn’t write Mr. and Mrs. Robert Smith on the invites and Bob and Sue Smith on the thank yous.

    Post # 7
    Hostess
    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I’d like to receive it. 🙂 As long as it’s a personal thank-you, I think your guests will enjoy it, too.

     

    Post # 8
    Member
    1375 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @MrsBroccoli:  Ditto this. 

    Also, as PPs mentioned, this is only ok if you write individual notes on the back of the postcard thanking guests for their attendance and their gift.

    Post # 9
    Member
    13015 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @MrsBroccoli:  Agreed.

    I personally don’t like the idea of getting a post card thank you.  I think it does look a little cheap, but it’s really the issue of pesonalization for me.  You only get a really small square space to write your note on when writing postcards (like 3.5 x 3.5 or soemtihng), so you’re really limited in what you write.  I personally think it looks as though you just wanted to get them over with and did it the quickest and easiest way possible.

    Take this with a grain of salt, though; I am super traditional and don’t tend to like many things that fall outside normal wedding traditions.

    Post # 10
    Member
    519 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    For me, it’s all about the quality of the note itself, not what it is on. I wouldn’t choose to send  postcards because I’m more formal, but if it was a thoughtful, well-written note I wouldn’t turn my nose up at receiving a postcard. The space issue may be a concern, because I pretty much filled up the inside of little thank-you cards writing mine. It takes quite a few sentences to write a good note. 

    Post # 11
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    2192 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    PP hit it on the nail!!  No one will mind getting a postcard as long as they A.  receive a thank you note, B. you handwrite a personalized note on there. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    5118 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    As long as it’s a personal, handwritten note, I’d like it. Whether it’s on a formal card, a postcard, or a napkin 🙂 I don’t like the ‘thanks for joining us at our wedding’ printed out cards. So impersonal. Then again, we’re handwriting our thank you postcards, so I’m obviously ok with them 😉

    Post # 13
    Member
    10573 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I’m not a big fan just because I don’t like the idea of random people being able to read it.  If you stuck the postcard in an envelope (I think there’s an actual term for this other than postcard) then no problem!

    Post # 14
    Bee
    1433 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

    I would think its a little unconvential, but as long as you write a thoughtful message (is that possible in the small writing portion?) then I’d be okay with it. 

    The only thing I’d be concerned about is guests not realizing its a postcard thank you and just thinking its junk and chucking it. 

    I mean… its better than not sending thank yous, but it still doesn’t really rub me the right way.

    I don’t think the savings are that significant, are they? 

    Post # 15
    Member
    101 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We are sending out postcard thank you notes too!! I thought it was creative and laid back, like us.  I am handwriting a thank you to each couple and mentioning the gift.  I hate it when you receive a generic “thanks for coming I love the gift” without mentioning what the gift is.  So I guess i care most about content vs. the actual card.

    Post # 16
    Member
    7902 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    So the etquette only dictates that you personally thank each guest for their gift. You are complying with etiquette just fine.

    How you do it depends on your personal preference, your knowledge of your guests, and tradition. I think postcards are a wonderful way to do this as long as the messages on the back are handwritten and personalized. If you have a few guests who are more traditional, you can always send them a regular thank you card.

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