Post # 1
helllllooo there!! So I just thought about something important that I totally didn’t think about before! We are sending postcards with information such as our registry and wedding website. Our guests have the option to attach postage, call or respond to our website… well, what if they were to send us the postcard back and they didn’t write down the info we provided…? just a thought! Are those of you who are doing postcards sending something with reception information too or are you leaving it up to your guests to write down/remember the info??
thanks for any input! kind of puzzled here….
Post # 3
If the reception info and the RSVP are on the same postcard, that is going to be a problem. People will probably not think to write down the information on a seperate piece of paper. I don’t know if you already made the forms or not but if you have, you might want to rethink this.
Post # 4
@Creasetul: You shouldn’t be putting registry info on a wedding invitation/card…that’s for the shower only and whoever is throwing the shower would add this to the invite.
Post # 5
I have seen detachable postcards where the response card kind of detaches from the dotted line and that way the invitation part itself can be saved to be referred to later.
Otherwise you’ll need to make a 2nd card for the invitation and put them both in an envelope. Postcard response cards are cute but as you’ve realized they don’t work well on their own because then the guests don’t have the address, date, time etc! They’ve mailed all that back to you! You need to have a separate card with that info so they can keep it.
Also the pp is right, make sure not to list your registry info on your wedding invitation, this is a big etiquette no-no, just list your wedding website and the guests will be able to go there and figure out where you are registered 🙂
Post # 6
put the invite and all info on an invitation, not your registry though, this is tacky. You can but the webadress of you website that has the registry info. then along with that invite mail a postcard RSVP, and put the postage on the postcard RSVP or it will look and you will come across as really cheap 🙁
Post # 7
I think that it’s totally fine to include the information in your invitation, but it does need to be on something separate or something that the guests can tear off so that they don’t mail the information back to you.
I know that a lot of PPs mentioned that you should put postage on the RSVP card, but you have to do what you can afford…everyone has different budgets. If you don’t have it in the budget to put postage on the cards, it doesn’t make you horrible or whatever…you gave guests the option to respond in other ways as well, so it’s not like your forcing anyone to pay for it.
Also…now I’m getting on my soapbox, and I have a feeling I’ll get a beatdown here…but, everyone expects everyone to have a registry nowadays anyway, so I don’t think that it’s cliche to put it in the invite. If you don’t, people will ask you anyway or go look on the wedding website. It’s not like people are horrified when you include registry info…I mean, you have a registry, it’s a list of presents that you want, that’s what it’s for…so if you think it’s tacky to tell people where it is, why isn’t it cliche to have one period? Just saying haha. I can safely say that I’ve never gotten a wedding invite with registry cards in it and thought anything of it other than, “oh cool, i’ll go get a present from (wherever) then.” So you do what you want to do and what works best for you!
Post # 8
Sorry but it’s still not ok to put registry info directly on the formal invitation. If you feel you need to include info about the registry, include a small card with your wedding website. Your site should include a tab for the registry. If they don’t have internet, surely they have access to someone’s phone number that could relay the info.
The RSVP card is generally a seperate card that icludes a spot for the name, number attending, and entree selection if necessary.
Post # 9
OP did NOT ask if she should include registry info on the RSVP card…can we just focus on the issue at hand and not call her tacky??? IMO you should either put the information in two places…OR…have a separate rsvp card and info card…that’s what I did. I had my RSVP card and then a separate info card with other necessary info.
Post # 10
@MissBMarie1428: I totally agree with you!
Post # 11
Maybe I’m misreading but I didn’t get the impression that anyone was calling her tacky??
Post # 12
the rsvp should be separate or can be separated from the invite and none of it should include registry info. all on one could invite a lot of hassel and headache for you.
Post # 13
Yeah, I think you may have a lot of issues with guests not writing it down and may have some people forget the date and/or hounding you right before the wedding on details, which I’m sure you won’t want to deal with. We’re doing postcards for the rspv’s only and having a separate card in the invite for reception/other info. Not sure if you’ve already sent them out yet, but if not, maybe that’s something you could do. Someone else mentioned a detachable portion, which is also a great idea I hadn’t really thought of.
As for others commenting on the registry, I wouldn’t worry too much about that. “Ettiquette” in this area, I think, is extremely outdated. I actually find it commical that some people are ok with including a separate insert with the registry information but are SOOOOO offended if its on the actual invite. Do you know how irrational and ridiculous that is?!?! You want your friend to spend more money and time printing out extra inserts with registry information just because you read in some ettiquette book written in the 1800s that you should be upset if it’s on the actual invite. Obviously you want to know about people’s registries but god forbid they tell you actually about it. Silly. I’m with MissBMarie1428 on this one. If you think it’s so rude to give people information on your registry, why even bother registering at all? If people don’t include their registry information on their invite, they are just getting staight money from me. I’m not going to spend an afternoon tracking down your best friend’s sister’s cousin who may or may not know where you are registered. (as I certainly won’t be bothering the bride/groom with silly questions in the week or two right before their wedding…which is when I’ll inevitably be buying the gift). Some people are just too uptight these days and get worked up about meaningless thing. If you want to pur your registry info on your invites/postcards, I say more power to you!
Post # 14
Nobody said she was tacky, just said that putting your registry on the invite is a tacky thing to do.
Also you really do need to include postage for your mail back RSVP post card. Or do not inclue an RSVP mail back card and just tell them to RSVP on line. Postcard postage is even cheaper then regular postage. For example it would cost less then $28 for 70 RSVP card postcard postage, which means you are inviting around 140 people give or take, if you can not afford $28 then thats a problem and it does look cheap!!
Post # 15
@Aurora403: Actually, you get free registry cards when you sign up, and these are easy to punch holes in and tie a ribbon to to include in the shower invite…or just include the names of the stores on the invite itself.
you make it sound like such a task, it really isn’t that hard.
By the way, you CAN list them…on the SHOWER invite…not wedding…it really is tacky, not the person doing it, but the gesture in itself is tacky
Post # 16
I would personally add all the registry info as a seperate insert to the invitation 🙂