Post # 1
I wore 2 wedding dresses to my wedding and i wanted to sell both now that my wedding is over, so i posted them on oncewed.com
One dress was sold to someone in the US – thankfully no issue.
Another dress, a very poluar style, has about 8 inquiries so far – and 7 are from Australia!! is that possible or is it a scam from same group that scams that dress using different email accounts?
Questions I have been asked:
— Some people asks for photos: ok not that weird.
— some people says “please tell me since my fiance is funding it” (which sounds sketchy since i read somewhere that’s a phrase commonly used in a scam scheme),
— that same person asked how much my dress would cost if she handles the shipping (whatever that means, how does someone handle shipping when i have the dress)
Have you guys heard of scams or have been a victim of scam for wedding dress? it sounds silly but i dont want to end up with no money and no dress. i rather keep my dress and store it if that’s the case!
Post # 3
I posted my dress on PreOwnedWeddingDresses.com. I emailed them for their advice on how to spot a scam/protect yourself and this is the advice they gave me:
As a seller, the two ways to protect yourself from a scam are:
1. Never ship your item until full payment is received
2. Only use a secure service like Escrow.com or PayPal for payment. (Escrow.com and Paypal are both safe for sellers because both offer a secure transfer of funds.However, Escrow.com offers more protection to the buyer. Because of this, it is the service that we recommend using.)
In our experience, if you tell this person that you will only accept paypal or escrow.com – legitimate buyers will respond, whereas scammers will stop responding (or try to convince you to use an alternate payment method).
I followed this advice and had a safe – and easy – transaction. And sold my dress within 1 month of posting it on POWD.
Hope it helps.
Post # 4
thanks so much for your post!
Post # 5
@FinallyGettingMarried: the fiance thing and handling the shipping are definitely scammers. i have seen several posts about it and got the same type of inquiries when i sold my first dress. i didn’t know any better at the time though, and was about to sell to this girl until she outed herself by saying “payment will be made via check”…..this was AFTER i emailed her and said i only accept paypal. so i was like, um, thanks but no thanks, i am not selling to you!
and in general, you should only use secure methods of payment like paypal. the most common way to get scammed is to accept someone’s check, they send too much, so they ask you to deposit it and send back to them the difference they over paid. that’s why they use the fiance is paying thing. they will say “oh my fiance thought the check was for something else” and so the check they send could be about $1000 over what you asked and then if you send it back, you end up losing $1000 once their check doesn’t clear.
also go with your instinct. the time i had a scammer email me, i got an email from a legitimate person a few days later (who ended up buying my dress!) and there was a complete difference in their tone and style in their emails. the real person i could just tell was sincere.
Post # 6
thanks purpleunicorn! i just dont understand why people would scam “wedding dress”, puzzles me…
Post # 7
@FinallyGettingMarried: i think wherever there is potential for scam, there will be one. and if works (sadly i remember reading about some brides who WERE scammed) then they will keep doing it.
Post # 8
Being from NZ, I always worry people will think it is a scam that I am looking for a dress in the US! Some of them may be a scam, but if you saw the prices of dresses here you would look in the US too! The dress I want to buy is $3K here, vs $900 US (new), and I know Australia has the same problem with price mark-ups. So be sceptical but there are some honest people out there too and they shouldn’t have an issue using paypal or other. (just watch out for paypal scams where they try to fake the confirmation email you have received payment)
Post # 9
I’ve heard of sellers getting scammed through PayPal too though! I read about here: http://www.aboutpaypal.org/buyers-using-paypal-to-scam-sellers/. Basically they just lie and say that they didn’t receive the package so PayPal refunds them the money from your account. Is anything ever safe?
Post # 10
After so many weird emails, and 0 legitimate ones, I am hesistant to trust any email that comes my way! Just got one that seems more legitimate than the pervious ones, but some things make me doubtful. Like requesting Escrow rather than Paypal (which I specified). and strange sounding email addresses! mcash at yahoo?? I dunno…
Post # 11
:O i’m from australia and this totally hurts 🙁
i’ve been looking for a wedding dress and then i stumbled across once-wed and i was like what?? $300 for a dress?? over here a second hand dress goes for no less than $1500!!
but i could find NO information on the website about whether it sells to australia as well, except that under the shipping tabs for each dress it says “will ship to: anywhere” which i think would be what gives all of the australians the impression that includes overseas hence the inquiries (which i also just sent off before i came across this post).
so probably they are NOT scammers, just australians desperate for a reasonably priced dress!
so does oncewed really not sell to overseas then?
Post # 12
I am not really sure of much on this as far as a scam, but the part about the buyer handling shipment COULD be possible.
I used to work at the UPS Store and there is a way to pay for the shipping label and have it printed by the seller. Or have the buyer snail mail the label to the seller.
I’ve done transactions where the shipping was over $1000.00 and the buyer would call us and pay over the phone with a credit card. Not my ideal situation, but if the buyer/seller are happy, and as long as the payment goes through, it was ok by the owner of the store.
I would hate to miss out on a sale if it was legit, so ask questions to find out more information when it comes to the buyer paying for shipping!
Post # 13
Same thing happened to me listing my gown here on the bee. Good luck and talk with real buyers on the phone. I did sell through ebay and used paypal.
Post # 14
HI,MY NAME IS CECE FROM DREAMING A FANTASY WEDDING IN ATLANTA
THERE IS A PERSON NAMED DEBBIE SCOTT WHO WANTS TO PURCHASE A BOUQUET FROM ME. SHE SAYS SHE WILL PAY AN EXTRA $100 FOR ME TO HOLD IT AS LONG AS I TAKE THE AD DOWN ON WEDDING BEE. I ASKED IF THEY WOULD LIKE TO PAY VIA PAYPAL, SHE SAID SHE HAD A BAD EXPERIENCE AND WOULD PREFER CERTIFIED CHECK. SHE IS INSISTING THAT I GIVE MY NAME, PHONE, ADDRESS. SHE WILL NOT CALL ME CLAIMING HER SIGNAL IS BAD AT WORK. THEN IN ANOTHER EMAIL SHE SAYS HER SON IS THE ONE WHO WANTS THE BOUQUET AND IS IN HOSPITAL WITH AN INJURY. LAST NIGHT SHE EMAILED ME AGAIN. I HAD TOLD HER I WOULD SHIP THE ITEM TO HER. SHE WROTE.
..Like I said I will prefer paying with Bank certified cashier check only and I will need your name and address to mail the Check to personally so I know that you got the Payment and you dont need to worry yourself about shipping it I have a local shipping company that will come down and have the item picked up as fast as you can once you might have received the Payment in hand first.
WHAT THE HECK…. WHO HAS ALOCAL SHIPPING COMPANY COMING TO PEOPLES HOME AND PICKING UP ITEMS. NO THANK YOU. I WOULD LOVE TO SELL THIS BOUQUET BUT ACCORDING TO THIS BLOG I CANT LOOSE ANY MONEY.
THESE PEOPLE ARE CRAZY WHO EVER IS DOING THIS.
SELLERS / BUYER BEWARE.