(Closed) posting annonymous for a tricky situation

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 197
3339 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

@misshalfway:  The only person who will have to know beforehand that you’re already married is your officiant.  He’d be the one who signs it.  You are also supposed to have witnesses, which are usually the Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man.  But you might get away with not telling them…it’s a sticky situation.  In answer to your question though, no, it’s not done in front of all the guests. Your mom may just ask something like, did you sign the certificate already?  And you can say, yes.  I’d never keep something like this from my mom though…good luck!

Post # 198
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m super late to the party but I’ll give my two cents. I went to a wedding 10 years ago where the bride was a good friend. I never actually saw them sign the license. I figured they did it after the ceremony but before pictures.

I went to a wedding last September and never saw the couple sign the license then. I was so caught up in everything that was going on that I never gave it a thought.

Post # 199
31 posts

I was in my brother’s wedding, and they signed the marriage certificate after the rehearsal…so the night before the wedding (they had it in a church though…). Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man were witnesses, and the pastor signed it as well. I have NEVER been to a wedding where the guests stayed to see the certificate signed. I have also known several couples who pick up their marriage licenses from the court house a few days before, and just go ahead and sign, notorize, and turn it in so they don’t have to worry about it on their wedding day, or forget to take it before they leave on their honeymoon. 

I’d just say “we already took care of it” if someone asks, that is not a lie afterall 🙂 However, I’m not sure I would say the same to my parents, but that is a personal choice…I certainly wouldn’t break any news to them until the wedding is over though, you deserve to enjoy your day!


Post # 200
486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

My opinion aside, I would make sure the officiant and MOH/Best man know, because at all the weddings I have been to, those are the people who need to know because they “witness”.

Post # 201
2716 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We had already signed our license…in NYS you have to get it at least 48 hours before the wedding, so you don’t even sign it there. Just the officiant & attendants. Even then, they just did it after the ceremony. I didn’t even know when they did it or if anyone else was there, since we had all left already. I wouldn’t think it would be a big deal.

ETA: I only read the OP

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