(Closed) Posting birth announcement on FB before telling close family?

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Is posting a birth announcement on FB before telling close family a faux pas?
    Yes- you should notify immediate family first : (115 votes)
    82 %
    No- new moms get a free pass on everything : (25 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 46
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1998

    I kind of find the “It’s not a big deal, new moms get a pass on everything” appalling. Yes, you have been through something difficult and rigorous, but that doesn’t extend to obvious exclusion and rudeness.

    They clearly had the time and energy to inform their friends (who even had the chance to visit), but couldn’t send out a mass text to the new grandparents, aunts and uncles? That seems very suspect to me. Is there some underlying tension between your fiance and his sister? That’s the only validation I can see for learning about your sister having her baby hours later. I understand that she couldn’t pass along the message (being tired, drugged up, etc.)– but baby’s dad couldn’t? I understand that this is exciting, but they were clearly able to inform friends.

    This is usually something that couples discuss. Especially when the birth is a planned c-section because of complications, it’s only courteous to inform family that everything went OK. It’s fine to even designate one person on each side of the family, i.e., “Could you tell my brothers/sisters? Thanks.”

    Of course, it is one of those things you shut up about and never mention. I found out about my nephew’s birth while I was sitting in the waiting room two hours later, while I was packing up my things to leave…in a phone call from my mom, who wasn’t even at the hospital (and after everyone else had already found out). Her entire family had known for over an hour and were in the waiting room with us, but not one of them said, “Hey, I don’t know if you heard…” One took the time to go call her boyfriend and a few other relatives, but couldn’t be bothered to walk 15 feet to us and tell us.

    Post # 47
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    10650 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I think it’s fine, but only if it’s mentioned to close family first that’s how they should be finding out, and making sure they are ok with it.  FB posts can be made just for certain people, it might be easier than texting everyone or something.

    Glad you got contacted eventually OP!

    Post # 49
    Member
    12316 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    IMO it is inconsiderate and in very poor judgment to do this.  

    Post # 49
    Member
    12316 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    IMO it is inconsiderate and in very poor judgment to do this.  

    Post # 51
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    219 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I totally think immediate fam should be told before facebook posts go up!! I will say this tho, I am 1 of 4 siblings and sometimes I tell people things and think I told everyone and blah blah and then I get a text from bro saying “uhhhhm you didn’t tell me you moved??” or I’ll tell my mom something and she’ll say oh ok don’t forget to call ALL of your brothers lol. And I’m the only one who is bad at this, my brothers are all great and send me FYI texts or emails about everything and I’m always like “ok, note to self, if pregnant, moving, engaged, married, changing jobs, getting dog, etc, tell family” and then 3 days later after I gush over whatever news with my gf’s I’m like ohhhhhhh myyy gooooooddddd I never told my brothers. Could be something like that if she’s a flake like me 🙂 Sometimes it’s even so bad that I’ll tell 1, get off the phone and decide I’ll wait bc I’m sick of being on the phone lol and then a day goes by and I feel awful!

    Post # 52
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    2268 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think that posting anything that important on Facebook before telling family and close friends is extremely tacky.

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