Post # 1
I want to get your opinions on this because I’m tempted to say something to my facebook friend.
A FB friend of mine who I have not talked to in years posted a picture of a person with the caption “If you wanna yell at me lady, then I’m posting your pic on Facebook”. Obviously there is no context here, just a photo, but this troubles me because this could be anyone, your mom, sister, cousin, person having a bad day, someone who just lost a loved one… or a genuinely rude person. It just seems like in this age of social media people are able to escalate things way too far too quickly. Are we now supposed to be equally rude to this woman whom we know nothing about? What if someone retaliates against her or is nasty to someone who looks like her?
Nobody is perfect and I’m sure we’ve all had moments where strangers have been displeased with us, regardless of whether or not it was justified. What would you have done if someone posted your picture for doing something they perceived as wrong? Should I send a private message to my FB friend?
Post # 3
I’m snarky enough that I would post a picture of her with the caption “If you want to post pictures of ‘rude’ people, then don’t be surprised when someone else does it to you.” I’d also tag her in it and remind her that even if she removes the tag, this picture will always come up with her name attached to it (even if she removes the tag, it does not remove her name, only the link to her profile). Future boyfriends, future employers, her family, and her friends will all be able to see what she has done. And I’d ask her if it was worth it and tell her I’d take her picture down when she took down the picture of the other woman down. But I’m vindictive like that when people hurt me or others.
Post # 4
Of course you could simply comment on the photo with exactly the words you just wrote, or simply report it. Not only is it mean, but I think there may be a rule about not posting pictures without the subject’s permission. Then Facebook will take it down without her ever knowing who reported her.
Post # 5
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Yeah, it’s ridiculous. No other people need to know your troublesome business. What do random strangers care if you know this “rude” person? And really, it just makes the original poster look petty and rude themself. Most people know there are at least two sides to every story, so yeah.
Post # 6
Childish, but if someone were to do something like this to me (not that I know anyone that would be likely to!) I would feel embarrased for them, not myself. I don’t see it as a major privacy concern for the person pictured. Sure makes the person posting it look foolish though.
Post # 7
@LittleBlueBird: I’d probably just report it. Since you said you haven’t really spoken to this person in years, he/she might not take you that seriously if you just send a private message. Depending on the type of person we’re talking about, he/she might just post your private message on their wall to try to make a joke out of that. (Hey, people can be weird.)
If you report it, they’ll never know who did it. I’ve never personally reported a photo, so I’m not sure how long it takes them to take it down … But you’ll probably feel a little better in knowing that this person’s picture won’t be plastered all over Facebook without their knowledge.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t do this for various reasons….. two of them being that I consider it to be very immature and the other that it might have possible legal consequences.
If someone posted a picture of me and assuming I knew about it (I might very well never find out though) I would probably report it to facebook and ask to have it removed. I wouldn’t engage that person, because what would be the point? Somebody that does something like that would most likely not apologize for it.
Saying that…. yes I have a few friends that have done this, and although I found it in poor taste, I never commented on it. It is up to you what you want to do about it, I just rather ignore that behavior and make note not to do something like that myself.
Post # 9
I absolutely hate this. Just the other day a girl on my Facebook posted a picture with a caption that said “leather jacket, sweatpants, and crocs. Man of my dreams right there”. The photo was a guy standing outside of elevators… at like 6:00am… AT THE HOSPITAL. I was so floored at how much of a moron this girl was to post that. Ever think he doesn’t give a F and he’s visiting sick family? Or he’s going in for surgery? I was so disgusted that she posted a pic of him. She did end up taking it down like 30 min after she posted it, but still.
Post # 10
That’s crazy! There’s a saying I love, and it’s ‘be kind to everyone you meet, for they are facing a secret battle you know nothing about’. You just never know what’s going on in someone’s life. maybe they just got diagnosed with cancer, maybe a loved one died. I work in reception and can at times deal with people that aren’t the nicest – but more often than not, there’s something going on inside that affects how they are to other people. Not that rudeness is acceptable, but I always think to myself that the rudeness isn’t personal, and I have empathy for others – even if they aren’t that nice. Naming and shaming people is not a solution. I’ve always that that regardless of how someone treats you, if you are polite in return, then no one can say you were anything but pleasant. Your friend is dealing with this in a passive aggressive way which really isn’t helpful. It makes her look bitter. Let’s face it, everyone has bad days, we’re not always on top of the world. You could just comment on the pic ‘maybe she was having a really bad day – you don’t know what’s going on in her life’.
Post # 11
I would also just report it. How immature of her.
Post # 12
Thank you for all of the advice! I ended up flagging the picture and will let that be the end of it. I have no issue with her as a person and don’t want to start anything–especially around the holidays.