Post # 1
My mother died a month ago. It’s been a very rough month emotionally, and the last thing I want to do is to continue plan my wedding scheduled for this October. Before my mother passed away, I was on top of my wedding plans. I had booked the church, the caterer, the cake, photographer, and my Fiance and I had just booked our honeymoon when everything went down hill.
It’s bad enough that nobody it seems can understand what I’m going through, and now I’m feeling pressured just to pick up where I left off with my wedding plans! I don’t know what to do. Part of me wants to call it off, but I read when your grieving your not suppose to make big decisions. The other part of me wants to keep things as planned. I’m afraid I will get to the day of the wedding and feel how I’m feeling now-numb.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry this happenend. I would wait a little to make any big decisions, you really shouldn’t do that while you’re grieving. What does your fiance think? You still have plenty of time to get things planned even if you take time off from planning for a while.
Post # 4
I don’t have any advice, I just wanted to offer support. I’m so sorry that happened, and I can’t imagine what you’re going through.
Post # 5
I’m so sorry to hear that 🙁 I agree with what the others have said – maybe wait a bit to make any big decisions.
If you do decide to continue as planned, maybe you could opt for a much smaller, more intimate ceremony for family and family-like friends and perhaps a lovely dinner instead of a full blown reception. My fiance’s dad passed away in October and we ended up cutting probably 70 people off our list to make it more comfortable for his mom. Everyone would understand.
Sending comfort and positivity your way. Glad you have your fiance there to support you.
Post # 6
I”m so sorry for your loss. I do agree you shouldn’t make any big descisions about calling off the wedding just yet. I think you need to give yourself a bit more time to grieve. I know it seems like the last thing you could ever thinka bout right now…and ur right, you need to be focusing on yourself and your family who’s grieving.
If I were you, I’d keep my date for now, just telling people thant planning is put on hold, but you hope to feel up to picking back up in month or so. Lean on your MoH/bridesmaids to take care of things you aren’t ready to deal with right now.
And yes, I’m sorry you have the feeling like no one understands what you are going though. They think it’s as simple as logic…knowing your mom wouldn’t want you to postpone your wedding…but it’s hard to tell that to your heart. There are alot of bees on here who have lost parents close to a wedding, reach out and talk to those who understand how you feel.