- 5 years ago
My fiance and I were looking forward to having our wedding next year in May at a wonderful ballroom space. We put a 25% initial deposit about 43 days ago. However wedding costs can surprisingly add up very quickly. After going over our budget together, we find that we need a bit more money to do everything we want. Therefore we want to postpone to May 2018. We are both currently in grad school. My fiance will be gratudating next year and will have a job, and therefore we will have more money for the wedding. If we postpone the wedding there are several advantage:
– have more money to do everything perfectly
– have money to go on honeymoon immediately and not postpone it
– start married life with some savings and emergency funds instead of starting off with no money or negative money (i.e. loans, credit card debt)
– I will have also just graduated, and will not be dealing with a very difficult phD program in physics and be a bit more settled in my career
It makes a lot of sense to us to postpone. However we do not want to lose our substantial deposit at the venue. We love the venue a lot! There is a cancellation policy in our contract, however there is nothing said about a change of date policy. It hasn’t been a long time since we signed, and we want to postpone so that we can do all the things we want for the wedding, and start a married life a bit more strong than if we do not postpone. We don’t want to seem like flakes or seem like we aren’t serious about getting married to each other.
Has anybody else dealt with this? Postponing your wedding to a later date. Did you contract have a cancelation policy, but no change of date policy? Did you lose the deposit or did it just get transferred?
I have emailed our point of contact with the venue, but feel very nervous about it. My fiance seems pessimistic and says we will lose our hefty deposit. Which would really suck.
Thanks for responding!