Postponed, but should I cancel the wedding?

posted 10 months ago in Elopement
Post # 2
2554 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

You have time to decide, but so much of this depends on the kind of wedding you have planned/want. If it’s 30 people in an outdoor venue space, that would be a ton more manageable than 150 in a ballroom. 

When you say you’d have a photo shoot in your wedding attire, do you mean you’d elope? Wait to get married until later? 

Post # 4
3152 posts
Sugar bee

If I were in your shoes, I’d probably just want to be married already. So I’d either do a wedding in NY with 1-2 witnesses (whatever is legally required there) and everyone else by zoom, or have a very small group in attendance in NY such as immediate family only and others by zoom. 

Post # 5
7854 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I think your new plan sounds perfect. Perhaps you and your future husband can take a trip to CA next year in May. 

Post # 6
14017 posts
Honey Beekeeper

If you want or need to be married sooner rather than who knows when, I’d do a Zoom wedding or very intimate, socially distanced wedding now and celebrate in person at a later date. 

Post # 7
2554 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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@Skivies91:  Got it! Yes, definitely cancel the destination wedding and aim for something closer to home with a limited number of close friends and family. A big party at a later date is definitely still an option, and I love PP’s suggestion of still traveling to CA with your husband. It would be a great first anniversary trip! 

Post # 8
14 posts
  • Wedding: October 2020

You still have time to decide bee, but as the future is uncertain and things might get worse by winter, I think eloping is the best option

My wedding was in July, but we end it up cancelling it as it was too stressfull moving the date around not knowing when things will improve.

We eloped in August in the date of our anniversary and since the venue didn’t returned our deposit, we can only use it as credit in there, we’ll be using it towards a fancy dinner with our inmediate family when things are a little bit safer and we’ll take pictures in our wedding outfits.

Tbh I’ve felt a lot better since we cancelled and decided to stop stressing about it. We thought that if in the futur we still feel the need of a party, we might do an anniversary party or something.



Post # 9
1581 posts
Bumble bee

Our wedding for 30 in June had to be cancelled as weddings of any kind were not permitted in our country.  We got married in a very simple ceremony in July and have no regrets.  Maybe we will have some kind of celebratory meal in the future, maybe not, but what matters is we’re now husband and wife.  In your place, I’d definitely go for the small ceremony asap and you can celebrate later.

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