Post # 1
So we postponed our 2020 wedding to May of 2021. But I’m not convinced the situation is getting better. We live in NYC and have been together 8 years. We are considering just having a nice photoshoot in our wedding outfits. What do you think?
Post # 2
You have time to decide, but so much of this depends on the kind of wedding you have planned/want. If it’s 30 people in an outdoor venue space, that would be a ton more manageable than 150 in a ballroom.
When you say you’d have a photo shoot in your wedding attire, do you mean you’d elope? Wait to get married until later?
Post # 3
I should have clarified better. Basically, our original (destination) wedding in California was going to have 50 people. It was going to be at wayfarers chapel overlooking the ocean. 😍
however, we have settled into our new home in NYC and we are considering a zoom wedding here with a photoshoot after. Virtual weddings recently became legal in NY. after the photoshoot we’d probably have a low key dinner with a few friends following COVID guidelines. We don’t have a big family and my fiancé’s family is in a different country and they are unable to travel here. Just thought what you all think?
Post # 4
If I were in your shoes, I’d probably just want to be married already. So I’d either do a wedding in NY with 1-2 witnesses (whatever is legally required there) and everyone else by zoom, or have a very small group in attendance in NY such as immediate family only and others by zoom.
Post # 5
I think your new plan sounds perfect. Perhaps you and your future husband can take a trip to CA next year in May.
Post # 6
If you want or need to be married sooner rather than who knows when, I’d do a Zoom wedding or very intimate, socially distanced wedding now and celebrate in person at a later date.
Post # 7
Got it! Yes, definitely cancel the destination wedding and aim for something closer to home with a limited number of close friends and family. A big party at a later date is definitely still an option, and I love PP’s suggestion of still traveling to CA with your husband. It would be a great first anniversary trip!
Post # 8
You still have time to decide bee, but as the future is uncertain and things might get worse by winter, I think eloping is the best option
My wedding was in July, but we end it up cancelling it as it was too stressfull moving the date around not knowing when things will improve.
We eloped in August in the date of our anniversary and since the venue didn’t returned our deposit, we can only use it as credit in there, we’ll be using it towards a fancy dinner with our inmediate family when things are a little bit safer and we’ll take pictures in our wedding outfits.
Tbh I’ve felt a lot better since we cancelled and decided to stop stressing about it. We thought that if in the futur we still feel the need of a party, we might do an anniversary party or something.
Post # 9
Our wedding for 30 in June had to be cancelled as weddings of any kind were not permitted in our country. We got married in a very simple ceremony in July and have no regrets. Maybe we will have some kind of celebratory meal in the future, maybe not, but what matters is we’re now husband and wife. In your place, I’d definitely go for the small ceremony asap and you can celebrate later.