(Closed) postponed once and cant postpone again, cancel?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 4
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891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

So, you can’t decide if you want a wedding or not. If you want a wedding, have one, regardless of whether people will talk or not. And you didn’t start off “wrong”, just different.

I’ve never been married, and my daughter will be six when I marry Fiance. I want a wedding and whether people think it’s “ok” doesn’t matter to me. Some people don’t think it’s ok because my child was born out of wedlock and have said as much. That doesn’t bother me in the slightest. I get to marry my best friend and have my child be a part of it.

Post # 6
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1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

One of the best and most meaningful weddings I’ve been to was my cousin’s – he and his wife were able to have their then 8 month old baby present and not a single person in that church and reception thought they were celebrating needlessly. My Dad, his Girlfriend, my brother, his Fiance at the time and I all flew from Canada to Ireland to attend, and were so absolutely thrilled to be there supporting their little family. I certainly never thought they should just get it over with.

If you want to elope for budget reasons they by all means do so, but if you think you might always be plagued a little bit by the fact you didn’t have the wedding you wanted then go ahead and do it.

 

Post # 7
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2869 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t see any reason to not have a full-on wedding 🙂

Post # 9
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1844 posts
Buzzing bee

if you want a wedding then have a wedding. I have been to many wedding of friends who already have children and decide years later to tie the knot. Personally, I would much rather go to a wedding knowing that I am supporting a growing family. You have already been through so much together i can’t immagine you would split up now. Where as going to the wedding of my teenage cousin, which i am more than happy to do, everyone kind of knows there are going to be problems there. 

In short: If you want a wedding have a wedding, if you don’t want a wedding then elope. but you need to decide what is best for you and your Fiance. not your family and friends. Remember that you can always have a small little wedding too, nothing says you HAVE to go over the top. 

Post # 10
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1562 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Have fun planning your wedding, that you deserve!  There is no reason to not have a wedding after a baby – and anyone who says otherwise is archaic in their thinking!

Post # 11
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95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Definetely have your wedding and don’t let anyone make you feel bad about it!  We are in our 30s and have a 1 1/2 year old daughter and she will be our flower girl.  We are having a traditional catholic ceremony with reception at a golf course.  I’m wearing a ballgown with tulle and my daughter will have a ballerina looking tulle dress.  Our daughter went with us when we went looking for venues and grandma has watched her when we met with the priest and other vendors.  We are putting the house buying off till after the wedding. 

A friend of mine went to a wedding where the couple had a 9 month old baby.  They had the baby go down the aisle in a wagon that was decorated!

 

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