Post # 1
soo heres my story fellow bees,
we got engaged christmas 2010 and i found out i was pregnant jan2011, we found our perfect ballroom and set the date, gave the deposit and everything. Had my baby july2011 and now with all the changes shes brought into my life which i couldnt be happier, i postponed the wedding till 2.15.2013. Now my issue is should we just elope and get it over with or should we still get married even though how my parents say we started off “wrong” because of my princess. im very indecisive sometimes i want my big old wedding and sometimes i just want to get married and get it over with because we have a baby but then again i didnt want to get married when i was pregnant because ppl would talk. Which they always do, but i made such a big fuss of not gettiing married when i was pregnant and to do it now would kind of kill it i guess?. i dont know i need some honest opinions because i really cant make up my mind. my parents and alot of close friends say to just get married and not do anything, say im being selfish because wed be speding around 20,000 for our wedding, a nother reason why im thinking twice about is were buying a house this year and we’d be on a really tight budget for our wedding even tho Hubs says we can still afford it but im not so sure and i hate stressing over it..
Post # 3
our anniv is august 29, eloping on that day a possibility but hubs doesnt want to invite anyone and i know alot of ppl would be hurt if that happens…
Post # 4
So, you can’t decide if you want a wedding or not. If you want a wedding, have one, regardless of whether people will talk or not. And you didn’t start off “wrong”, just different.
I’ve never been married, and my daughter will be six when I marry Fiance. I want a wedding and whether people think it’s “ok” doesn’t matter to me. Some people don’t think it’s ok because my child was born out of wedlock and have said as much. That doesn’t bother me in the slightest. I get to marry my best friend and have my child be a part of it.
Post # 5
yes basically i cant make up my mind, i hate it. i definitely love that she can be a part of the wedding that is lovely. My bbygirl would be a little over i yr old.i really do want a wedding,
Post # 6
One of the best and most meaningful weddings I’ve been to was my cousin’s – he and his wife were able to have their then 8 month old baby present and not a single person in that church and reception thought they were celebrating needlessly. My Dad, his Girlfriend, my brother, his Fiance at the time and I all flew from Canada to Ireland to attend, and were so absolutely thrilled to be there supporting their little family. I certainly never thought they should just get it over with.
If you want to elope for budget reasons they by all means do so, but if you think you might always be plagued a little bit by the fact you didn’t have the wedding you wanted then go ahead and do it.
Post # 7
I don’t see any reason to not have a full-on wedding 🙂
Post # 8
my moh and soon to be hubby say i will regret it if i dont sometimes friends know you better than yourself hehe, im in full planning mode now
Post # 9
if you want a wedding then have a wedding. I have been to many wedding of friends who already have children and decide years later to tie the knot. Personally, I would much rather go to a wedding knowing that I am supporting a growing family. You have already been through so much together i can’t immagine you would split up now. Where as going to the wedding of my teenage cousin, which i am more than happy to do, everyone kind of knows there are going to be problems there.
In short: If you want a wedding have a wedding, if you don’t want a wedding then elope. but you need to decide what is best for you and your Fiance. not your family and friends. Remember that you can always have a small little wedding too, nothing says you HAVE to go over the top.
Post # 10
Have fun planning your wedding, that you deserve! There is no reason to not have a wedding after a baby – and anyone who says otherwise is archaic in their thinking!
Post # 11
Definetely have your wedding and don’t let anyone make you feel bad about it! We are in our 30s and have a 1 1/2 year old daughter and she will be our flower girl. We are having a traditional catholic ceremony with reception at a golf course. I’m wearing a ballgown with tulle and my daughter will have a ballerina looking tulle dress. Our daughter went with us when we went looking for venues and grandma has watched her when we met with the priest and other vendors. We are putting the house buying off till after the wedding.
A friend of mine went to a wedding where the couple had a 9 month old baby. They had the baby go down the aisle in a wagon that was decorated!
Post # 12
thank you so much, yea my parents are a little old school but hey they love my babygirl.
yes i plan to make her my little flower girl that is just too cute, personally ive never been to a wedding that has involved their children but i bet its really cute and i will be having it
thanks for the support