(Closed) Postponed wedding

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
272 posts
Helper bee

I’m not sure what the formal etiquette is, but since you’re postponing and not cancelling I would hold on to the gifts (but probably not use them), write lovely thank you notes explaining the bad news, and then when things go well and you set a new date you’ve saved people the trouble of buying you presents all over again.  If tragedy struck and you decided that getting married will never be in the cards, then you return the gifts to the sender.  Someone else may have a more informed answer, but that would by my gut reaction.

Post # 4
2066 posts
Buzzing bee

I agree – don’t use the wedding gifts. 

A friend postponned her wedding.  She send everyone an email explaining that the wedding was postponned and she and her Fiance needed to work on some things.  If people had questions, they were to direct their questions to her Mom or her Maid/Matron of Honor.  I assume the groom sent a similar email to his guest list. 

Good luck working things out with Fiance. 

Post # 5
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I would NOT tell people that you’re postponing to “work things out.” Honestly I feel like thats going to create more gossip and bad vibes than you need. I would send thank you notes with a super vague line like “Unfortunately circumstances require that we postpone our ceremony to a later date. We expect to reschedule for later this year, and we’ll send out invitations as soon as we have a date” or something like that. 

Post # 6
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think CorgiTales is right. You don’t need every person on your guest list calling you to see what’s wrong, how they can help, offer armchair therapy. I think a nicely worded thank you with the vaguely worded note like Corgi offered would do the trick.

I hope you guys work things out. Lots of ((hugs))!!!

Post # 7
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would definitely NOT say you are postponing in order to work things out.  This is going to cause gossip.  Just say something like, “Unfortunately uncontrollable circumstances have caused us to postpone the wedding.  Once we have a new date we will let you know.”

Post # 8
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree with CorgiTales, be very vague about the postponement.  And I wouldn’t use the gifts just in case.

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