Post # 1
Le sigh. We decided to postpone.
The wedding date has been moved back a whole year, til summer ’13. It seems so far away I can barely imagine it. We don’t even have a new date yet, there’s no point setting one this far out. We’ll start thinking about it this winter probably.
It has nothing to do with our relationship, we’re doing great and are very happy together.
The reasons are solid and make so much sense. We’ll have time to pay off all our debt (credit card and put a major dent in our student loans), plus save up a lot of money for the wedding and an actual honeymoon. We’ll be able to have a much bigger budget (probably 10-15,000 or so rather than our original 3,500) We’ll be in a more solid place in life when we get married, whereas if we were to do it next year we’d still be renting a small apartment, still in school, still working retail jobs. By summer ’13 I’ll have graduated and been out working in my career field for a full year already, he’ll be one year away from graduating (graduating again, actually. He’s going back to school after graduating already). It all makes so much more sense if we wait that extra year.
I’m still upset though. I’m sad to lose our perfect date – 06-30-12 – I have a thing with even numbers. I’m sad to wait such a long time. I’m just upset over having to postpone it. I’ll get over it and get excited for our new date soon enough, I’m sure. I’m still planning (although much less seriously now, since it’s so far out).
(I’m still sticking around the bee, though. And I’m sure this means my post count will be in legendary figures by the time my wedding finally rolls around…)
Post # 3
Give yourslef time to grieve the change in plans. It’s ok to be sad right now.
After a period of time you will move on in your life and soon start planning again.
The important thing is that you are with the one you love.
Post # 4
I know it sucks, but you’re making the right decision. And now sooo much time to plan!! I’m sorry though 🙁 And I’m sure now you can find an even more AWESOME wedding date…one that will be better than 6-30-12. If it makes you feel any better, I am a total numbers person, and I reallllly only love even numbers, but yet, I’m getting married on 8-27-2011. 27 and 2011…..not even.
Post # 5
It sounds like the two of you are making a mature, thoughtful decision.
And it will be here before you know it, and all the better for the extra time spent saving.
Post # 6
@Gingersnap: awwww, I’m sorry to hear it’s being pushed back a year!!! But at least the reasons are good reasons!!!
It’ll give you PLENTY of time to do all the DIY you could possibly want, too!!!
Post # 7
@Gingersnap: So sorry to hear that you had to postpone. However, Kudos to you both for being smart about thinking it through and realizing that it will be better in the long run. You will both be in a better place financially, and will be able to plan the wedding of your dreams, and go on a honeymoon. I think you two are doing the right thing. You may be sad now, but when you are married and look back, you will be happy you made the decision you did. Best of luck to you both:)
Post # 8
Time flies at first June 2011 seemed so far away, and now here it is a few weeks away. 2013 will be here b4 u know it and you’ll be wondering where all the time went
Post # 9
This happened to us. Ask me how I feel on May 13th (a week from now and our original wedding date). Our programs in school got extended a year, car problems+private student loan came due, and private health insurance was just too expensive for us to get married. I totally understand the frustration. For now, we have dates in mind but aren’t sharing until it’s set it stone b/c the hurt of having to tell people over again is too much for me. Many hugs to you and your Fiance!