(Closed) Postponing the wedding

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I didn’t postpone, but having your dream wedding will make up for the bummer your experiencing now!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think you decision was very smart and mature! I bet it sucks to have to wait that much longer for your special day, but having the wedding of your dreams without going into debt will make it all worth it!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I hope this post doesn’t come across as rude…

 

but I just don’t understand the concept of putting off getting married to save money to have the event of your ‘dreams’.  To me, the reception is a party after the main event, which is getting married.  It costs like $50 to get married… everything else is just fluff.  It’s one day out of your entire life, and I just feel like sometimes we put so much emphasis on the party and not what’s really happening that day.  I’m fortunate to have a sizeable budget and I’m having a great event, but both the fiance and I agreed that even if we didn’t have this money to do what we’re doing, we’d still be getting married and would still love our pared-down, lower-key, less expensive party.  It’d still be lovely no matter what.

 

I guess what I’m saying is that not having the money to have the ‘wedding of my dreams’ would NOT stop me from getting married, and it wouldn’t postpone things either.  I understand why it does for a lot of people, but at the end of the day… this is one day out of your life. 

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

That’s the mature decision and if you explain why I’m sure nobody would even give it a second thought.

 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What if you eloped and then had a party later?  I think that will let people know there is nothing wrong!  I think elopments are 123873045923845% more romantic, too!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

@KristenGotMarried:  I do agree about not putting off the wedding in the sense that the ceremony is the important bit (I feel likewise about putting off getting engaged because you can’t afford the ring). At the same time though, if your life isn’t going to change that much when you DO get married (in the case of those who live together) and you’ve already made the committment, I think it’s not as big a deal to hold off on the celebration until it can be what you want it to be.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Ms.Ninja:  Whew. I was hoping I didn’t come across as a complete b-word.  And I totally understand where you’re coming from too.  Would you consider getting married and saving up for a vow renewal or a celebration later on?

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

Everybody has their reasons to postpone –  It’s their wedding day… I have to postpone my wedding day because of a court case that needs to be dealt with. And no I would not be happy with getting a $50 courthouse “JOP” ceremony and a “reception” a few months later. (My fiance and I discussed this and I didn’t like the idea) The wedding ceremony and reception should be on the same day, and if I have no money to make it the way I WANT it,  then, yeah, postponing is the best option, I would regret it for the rest of my life if I can’t have the wedding of my “dreams”! I wouldn’t feel “married” and I certaintly wouldn’t feel special. 

Another reason, my mom isn’t coming to my “May wedding” because she doesn’t approve of my fiance because of the court case thing going on, (She doesn’t know the whole story and she’s in Florida right now) so maybe after the court thing is done with, she’ll change her mind….. Here’s hoping!

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