(Closed) Postponing TTC…ugh…

posted 7 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m sorry πŸ™  That stinks, and it is usually when it doesn’t happen that you find you really wanted something.  Just spend some extra time doing all the fun ‘married without kids’ things until the time is right πŸ™‚ 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I know that can be frustrating. We originally postponed our timeline as well. One thing that might help is spending this next year getting ready for the baby. Make an effort to get your finances and savings in order. Work on being healthy, eating healthy, taking vitamins, dealing with stress, going to the dentist, etc. Even though you won’t be TTC, taking steps to get ready to TTC might help! It might help you feel like you are actively working towards TTC, instead of just waiting for that date to approach!

Post # 7
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1285 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I feel you, we’re on TTC hold for a month and that sucks enough!

I say enjoy having the freedom to do whatever you want, whenever you want!  Cook crazy dinners, go see some concerts, go travelling, drink lots (!), have sex whenever and wherever the mood takes you (within reason of course!).  Say yes to every opportunity and invitation that comes your way!

Good luck and the year will pass before you know it πŸ™‚

PS And feel free to pat yourselves on the back for being responsible, setting yourself up for the future and making good decisions

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Aw I’m sorry πŸ™ We’re on a 2 month hold right now from TTC and it is definitely frustrating!!! I know it’s nothing close to a year but I can feel where you are coming from. Darling Husband and I have just been making an effort to do more things together. We’ve been living together for a few years too but we’ve been doing some different things lately that we couldn’t do if we had kids….even if it’s something like having a movie marathon weekend or going out to a cheap play at the local playhouse. We’re just trying to do everything that we can to enjoy each other.

You two are making a really selfless decision and setting your future children up for a better future! It for sure doesn’t make it easier though, I feel for you!

 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@MrsCarnival: Welllll we got married this past June and we were planning on waiting for 1-2 years before we started trying but it just didn’t work out that way. Our honeymoon happened to land during the important time of the month so we decided to just go with the flow and see what happened. If I got pregnant we’d be thrilled, if I didn’t we’d wait. And I got pregnant. After that MC we both just knew that we were ready and that we wanted to start trying. Since then we’ve found out that I have lots of hormone imbalance (from my PCOS and thyroid) issues and we’ve just been trying to fix it all. There are some moments where I still freak out and think maybe we’re making a mistake by not waiting but knowing about my issues it would scare me to wait longer. We’re hoping to end up with more than one child and if it takes a long time for both it’s definitely better that we’ve gotten started already.

Do you already chart? For some reason I think you do but I’m too lazy to go back and look it up in old posts lol. If you don’t then that would definitely be a good thing to do just to give you peace of mind that you’re body is doing what it’s supposed to already.

Btw for the whole month before my wedding I barely spent any time on the wedding boards, I was just so over it and ready to move onto the next thing!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@MrsCarnival: Sorry to hear you have to wait longer!!! Waiting is SO hard (for me at least!).

While I’m waiting, I’m trying to get started with a new OBGyn (I dislike my current one), charting, and reading some books. I’m also trying to lose a little weight and I’m doing things I won’t be able to do when PG, like eating sushi!

I haven’t found too much to take solace in, except that I don’t have any known fertility issues and am generally healthy.  I’m also living vicariously through my sister, who is 5 months pregnant… sometimes this helps and sometimes it makes things worse! (Like the other day when I went to buy her some maternity clothes and the saleslady suggested I try stuff on, since we’re the same size… seeing myself in maternity clothes was not helpful! You’d think maybe it would be a deterrant, but it just made me even more frusterated about waiting.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Hmm I can imagine how you feel. Just keep telling yourself that the most important thing is that both of you need to be ready and P.S he’s waiting bc he wants to be better prepared to take the BEST of care of your future child! Hang in there πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I know exactly how you feel! I originally thought we’d plan to TTC in September 2012 (after our wedding), but after a talk this weekend, it seems as if my fiancé wont be ready then Frown I don’t want to push him but I’m finding it really difficult! I dont know, I’m hoping we can re-evaluate once we get around to the wedding/honeymoon. In the meantime I’m trying to focus on planning our wedding etc. don’t know what else to suggest, I could use some suggestions too!

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