Post # 1
I just wanted to see if anyone else feels the same way I do right now…
Fiance and I have been engaged since this past new years. We have already chosen the venue, caterer, photographer, bridal party, the potential date, and a lot of other very fine details. However, I feel like putting the wedding off because I don’t think I can lose enough weight to be comfortable by then (August 17th, 2013). I’ve lost 50 pounds in the past and I’d be happy at that weight but I’m also going to be starting my final year of college where I’ll be interning and trying to finish up all of my classes.
I’m really nervous of committing to a date, which we would have to do soon for our venue and caterer, because I’m afraid that I’ll be too overweight come time for the wedding! 🙁 It’s sad how much I’m dreading wedding dress shopping. I’ve been pretty active lately, although I haven’t been doing the best on my diet. I think this might be a good push for me.. I believe that april (spring break) would be the latest time for me to buy my dress so that would give me about 6 months to see what I can pull off.. but I’m so afraid of it pushing me too much and causing me to just have a stressful break down.
I do want to move in with my Fiance after I graduate and this is a big reason why the wedding is just a few months after graduation but I’m starting to think that maybe we should just wait until 2014.
Does anyone have any advice? 🙁 Thank you!
Post # 3
I think that you should go ahead with your August wedding. You still have almost a year to loose the extra weight. You can do it. Join a program and/or get a workout buddy. Maybe you and your Fiance can work to get healthier together. Good luck in your decision and remember you fiance’ loves you for who you are no matter what your weight is. The bees will be happy to hold you accountable.
Post # 4
So, I think you need to disconnect “feeling beautiful” with losing weight. (I know – easier said than done!)
But really, you should want to lose weight to be healthy, not to look pretty.
To look pretty, you need to love yourself. Your FH obviously finds you beautiful, and I am sure you have many good qualities. Your beauty wll shine when you are happy with you (no matter what the scale says!)
Just a few words of advice from a gal who has been dieting her whole adult life!
IMO, I would not delay….I did not get to my goal weight before my wedding (and i am stll working at it). There are some pics of my arse that look terrible! But I got married because I was excited to marry Darling Husband, not because of what my scale told me!
Post # 5
I know it can be tough when you are worried about your weight. I deal with that sometimes too. But honestly, no matter what your weight is on your wedding day, you will look absolutely beautiful and everyone will be happy for you! Your wedding day is about you getting married to the love of your life. Try and focus on how lucky you are that someone loves you enough to want you to be their wife 🙂 Perhaps that will be an even better motivator for losing weight, rather than stressing out about your looks. I wouldn’t postpone getting married to my love just because I’m worried about how I will look. He loves you!! Embrace it, girl!!
Post # 6
I wouldn’t delay the wedding. I’m a dieter, and last year I got down to a very small size (but wasn’t healthy/smart about it, so I regained around 20 pounds since) and sure I wish I would have gotten married then, but a wedding dress does AMAZING things for your figure and I think a curvy bride looks so much better than a stick thin one (IMO and NO OFFENSE to anyone).
I suggest that you go to a bridal salon and try on some dresses then make your decision. And a word of advice, don’t get freaked out about your dress size, mine is 4 sizes higher than my jeans size!!
I also agree with pp about disconnecting size with beauty – its all about being healthy! Beauty comes from a whole other place than weight!
Also also (adhd, sorry I’m all over the place) the best diet I’ve done was the Atkins diet. I lost around 80 pounds on it in about 8 months, and kept every bit of that off.
Post # 7
You are beautiful no matter what a crappy scale has to say. To me the most beautiful brides are the ones who are bursting at the seams with happiness and love.
Post # 8
@Teacher2Be: I have to tell you that I totally understand where you are coming from by wanting to do this! BUT, I also want you to know that come the day of your wedding (and even after) you will not be thinking of your weight, or how much you wished you had lost. I am a plus sized gal with major insecurities and was so blown away at how beautiful I felt.
Don’t postpone your wedding, embrace the person that you are and enjoy it. Truth? Wedding planning combined with dress shopping made me crazy about the numbers on the scale and everything that I should have been doing to make the numbers shrink… it made for a miserable few months. Bet you are gorgeous and your SO can’t wait for your special day together!
Post # 9
I’m basically the heaviest I’ve ever been, but my man loves me and wants to marry me, and I feel more gorgeous than I ever have. I’d love to lose some weight before the wedding, but I don’t need the extra stress of panicking about it right now, so I’m going to try and find a dress that makes me look bangin’ at my current size.
You could wait years to be at some “goal” weight, don’t put your life on hold, lady! Basically — don’t let your insecurities get in the way of you getting on with your life.