(Closed) Postponing wedding But changing Guest List

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Did you already send save-the-dates or invitations?

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You can just say you have decided to have private ceremony with immediate family only.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

DId you tell people they were invited and send out invites? If so that will make things harder but if not then you do liek every other bride out there. Also depending on you destination wedding you can keep costs quite low if your doing the basics and whoever wants to pay there way there can.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Eesh, you’re just deciding this a month before your wedding? I guess I’d just do what bells suggested, but this close, isn’t everything already paid for?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Oh man, have your guests already booked hotels?  Flights? Etc.?  If they sent gifts, you probably want to send them back.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Eh, there really is no way you can do this without stepping on some toes and making people upset, so your best bet since invites are already sent out would be to call each guest and personally tell them that you’ve decided to just have a small, intimate family wedding.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh wow.  This is incredibly late to be getting real.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Have your guests booked travel?  If that’s the case there will be some angry people.

However, you may send notices (send them ASAP) saying “The wedding of Crazybeautifuldisaster and Mr. Crazybeautifuldisaster on Sept. 7, 2012 has been cancelled.”  You may find better wording from Emily Post online.

In order to truly not offend people, I would hesitate planning a large wedding later, or re-inviting everyone at the later date.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@crazybeautifuldisaster:  The only thing I can think of is calling everybody so that people aren’t booking between your decision and when a mailed announcement arrives.

I also would not even consider having a wedding or reinviting anyone later.

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well, you can’t do this without being rude.  You invited guests, and now this is a huge problem.  Definitely don’t have a big wedding later if you end up cancelling this one.

Also, just because only some deposits have been paid, haven’t you signed contracts?  Most contracts stipulate that you can’t get refunds and are committed to giving them that money regardless of if the wedding happens if you’re this close…

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