(Closed) Posts about “offensive” comments to a large ring

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

There is a lot about comments like this that is difficult to communicate in text; many times it’s their tone of voice or facial expression that can make you feel about 2 feet tall.  Can you really not imagine a situation in which this would make you uncomfortable? People are offended by all kinds of things. I, personally, would be tickled to know someone was jealous of my ring, lol, because I take jealousy as a compliment, but I can definitely see how some people would feel as though these comments are coming from a holier-than-thou place.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Brunette314: I dont get it either! And I dont understand why people are so negative to people with bigger rings? I enjoy looking at big stones- I LOVE my ring but still doesnt mean I can enjoy looking at rings bigger than mine! I dont think that because someones ring is bigger they are loved less, or anything along those lines… some people like smaller diamonds, some are more budget conscious, some just have Fiance like mine that want to get bigger rings to make themselves look good! LoL Fiance said when he got my ring he wanted people to look at it and say “Damn hes awesome” Haha! Why cant we ALL be happy for everyone on here! I havent seen anyone say “haha your ring is small?” I dont think anyone would!

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Yeah. I kind of laugh because there are probably tons of people out there who didn’t get a ring at all who would love to have that “problem.”

ETA: I get that people can be tactless, it just seems like kind of a nice reason to get mad about something. Sometimes you just have to laugh 🙂

 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I guess a lot of people just do not think it is appropriate to comment on the size of the stone at all, big or small.

Also to be fair the post (I think) you’re talking about had a lot of actually offensive comments in it like “I guess he didn’t pay the mortgage” and the like.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’d just assume anyone making snarky comments was doing so out of jealousy or their own issues (perhaps they’re unhappy with their own rings).

I think it’s like the same thing as when people make comments to women who are thin “You’re soo skinny, eat a sandwich” – it sucks because it can make that person uncomfortable but usually it has more to do with the person making the comment than the person who it’s being said to.

I don’t think posters with large rings are “offended” so much as certain comments are intentionally mean-spirited and meant to make them uncomfortable – which is crappy to deal with no matter what size your ring is.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I sort of think people start these threads as an excuse to post more photos of their rings Wink

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Brunette314: I don’t get it either. This weekend, my family kept oh-ing and ah-ing over it when we were there. It’s a beautiful stone almost 2 carats. I think it’s a gorgeous diamond that my husband picked out and wanted super sparkly. What’s funny is that his coworker knew my carat size and had to one-up us on it. Her solitare is 1.8 carats with little other surrounding diamonds probably adding up to over 2 carats versus my 1.71 single princess solitare. My husband and I find this endlessly amusing because I just wanted a nice ring, nothing to compete against, etc. I love my rock and will always! 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

People are upset b/c others said their ring looked big? I must of missed that…humm I guess maybe people were thinking that this was a “none of your business” comment if strangers commented on the size. Personally, nobody I know, myself included, would be upset if someone reffered to my ring as “big.”

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@donnaaries: Who needs an excuse???

 

I wil now shamelessly post a picture of my ring.

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

i  dont get it either, but honestly I dont get why any of the ring comments are offensive. I dont wear an e-ring at all… and boy the comments i’ve heard about this. apparently i’m not really engaged without a ring evn tho i have a wedding that is booked and paid for takin place in june! I just laugh it off.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Its not just the comment about rings, its the tone and insinuation behind the comments that could make it offiensive.  And the other comments too (as pulled from the offensive comments thread)- “wow, you must be good in bed”, “geez, how much does he make to afford that?” etc.  Personally, I wouldn’t care either way if someone did want to be snarky or mean about it being ‘too big’, its my ring, their problem about my rings size is their problem.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Brunette314: “Maybe I am missing something but what is offensive about someone simply stating, “wow look at the stunner!” or something along those lines?”

I haven’t seen a post on here where someone was offended by a statement like that Wink Most of the time, it’s DEROGATORY statements in relation to the ring’s size, whether implying it’s too big or too small- I think commenting on size period is what offends people. That being said, I agree with one of the PP’s – compared to not having a ring at all, it’s not actually a “problem” or something that should truely be agonized over… or heck, even have another thread started over 🙂

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think it is rude to make rude comments about how small someone’s ring is, but I don’t see why people would get offended if someone say wow your ring is so huge that just means your man can afford a nice size rock, more power to you.

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