(Closed) Posts about “offensive” comments to a large ring

posted 11 years ago in Rings
Post # 47
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77 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Dear god, do people really waste time being “offended” over the fact that someone is jealous that you have a bigger rock than they do? I think people need not be so uptight. Let the little girls be jealous…but be a bigger person back than they are. Be proud and thankful and laugh it off 🙂

Post # 48
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2166 posts
Buzzing bee

@Soladylike:

Totally agree, although it can be a mixture of both.

I’m usually am a bit envious (as in… I want to get engaged/married god-damn-it!) and also because I love shiny pretty things on girls fingers and just want to oogle

Post # 49
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107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I also found that post about all the offended women so bizarre..   I don’t get it either! and they weren’t talking about 3-4 carat rings, they were taliking about 1 carat rings… 

I think that if you and your fiance are already struggling financially and you show up with a big ring, then i might see why such comments are offensive, bc they are essentially saying you are living outside of your means! 

At the end of the day, it is not the size of your ring or what people think of your ring that makes your marriage a happy one 🙂

Post # 50
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389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My big issue is that people feel like they can tell us how to spend our money. I have a 2.5 ct center stone and my set is well over 3cts. BUT we’re keeping to a $5k budget for the wedding. Fiance got my ring on eBay at a deep discount. Had he not gone the eBay route, I would’ve gotten around 3/4 carat.

I have gotten so many comments about our wedding budget being $5k and my ring being large and that offends me. I have never told someone how to spend their money and I expect the same courtesy from others. I will cherish my engagement ring and wedding band each day for the rest of my life. The booze, the cake, the flowers–those will be gone within hours of the wedding and it is not a priority to me.

Just because we bought a “large” ring does not mean we’re obligated to wine and dine everyone.

Post # 51
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1065 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I understand being offended at comments about large rings that imply that they are gawdy, or that you must be in the poorhouse after spending that much money on a ring.  I’ve read on here about ladies getting offended because someone ogles their ring, or says “wow, that is huge.”  That I don’t understand, and while I’ve never commented on anyone’s ring size (and never even noticed until I got engaged myself) I always figured that people wanted a big ring for a reason… kind of like wanting a Prada bag or a Fendi purse… you kind of want people to stare, no?  If you didn’t want to attract attention, why would you have such a large ring?

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