(Closed) Posts like these are the kind I try to avoid lol

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
46681 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Whew! It sounds like you are still in a very difficult place in your life.

I know you said you need to save money but is there any other living situation that would work for you? Can you move in with your SO? Find a live- in nanny position? free room and board in exchange for child care? housesit?

Post # 5
5106 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Bellanouva:Dang, girl. I was hoping things would start looking up for you. I don’t really have any good advice other than trying everything you can to get out of that situation. I agree with@julies1949: is there anywhere you can stay on the cheap, or possibly in exchange for work? That way at least what your father allows to happen in his house doesn’t affect you in this way. No one should have to feel unsafe in their own home.

Sorry, love. HUGS to you.


ETA: can you have your sister’s number blocked from your phone as well? That way she can’t send hurtful and threatening texts or calls.

Post # 9
5106 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Bellanouva:I would play hardball with the cell company. Somehow anything they told yout they can’t do suddenly becomes possible when they think they will lose your business.

BE ANGRY! Scream at the top of your lungs, punch something (preferably something soft…). It’s okay to feel that way. You have a right.

Post # 10
2190 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

oh my gosh, it sounds like your dad is scared of her, himself. I’m really sorry you are going through all of this 🙁 I agree with Julies1949, a live in nanny position could benefit you. Just anyway to get away from her 🙁 I wish I had something insightful to say but I don’t–but I am here to listen (or read) I hope things get better, fast. *hugs*

Post # 13
3267 posts
Sugar bee

If you can’t block her number assign her a silent ring tone so you don’t even know she is calling. File a restraining order against her so she must remain a certain distance from you.

Can you look at renting a room in a house. They usually go pretty cheap and really can you afford not to? Or stay at a motel that does weekly rentals. They aren’t ideal living situations but better then being killed.

And ultimately, stop trusting your dad to look out for your best interests. He clearly only cares about what he wants. Look into counselling to help you to realize the effect your toxic family is having and on ways to deal with it.

Good luck.

Post # 14
166 posts
Blushing bee

My first thought is for you to go to the Police and file for a restraining order.  In light of the fact that she has threatened you and you fear for your safety, I would imagine it wouldn’t be all that difficult to get one.  You should look into that.  If you have one on her they limit how close she can come to you and if she violates the order by contacting you by phone or in person, all you have to do is call 911 and they’ll throw her butt in jail for violating it.  You don’t have to put up with her crazyness.

Post # 15
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I suggest that you put the word out that you are looking to rent a room.  I personally did it for years before me and my Fiance moved in together.  This way you will feel safe and you don’t have to take legal recourse. 

I understand when you have uncontrollable siblings living in the same house.  Sometimes to keep the peace, you just have to bite the bullet and move out.

Good Luck!!!!

Post # 16
348 posts
Helper bee

For concrete advice, I would call a domestic violence hotline.  Maybe that sounds extreme, but they would have the best information about possibility of obtaining a protection order, and in general what your rights and options are in this situation.  And they may know of good short-term housing situations.  FYI, your situation would meet many legal definitions of domestic violence.

I also just want to say that I have a lot of sympathy for you.  My husband’s brother has some serious mental issues.  Although they thankfully don’t manifest in threats towards our family, it’s heartbreaking to watch someone you are supposed to have a loving relationship with do such crazy things.

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