Post # 1
I have some concerns about my ring. I’ve had these feelings for a while. I don’t *love* my ring. It’s not what I would have picked for myself or what I told him I wanted, but he wanted to propose sooner, so he made the decision unbeknownst to me to buy a smaller stone sooner. I have only had one actually negative comment (“when is he going to buy you a real ring?”) but I honestly do feel insecure about the stone’s size/lack of a bling factor.
I hated almost every wedding band I laid my eyes on. I don’t know why. I put them next to my ring and I hated them. I finally found this wrap to serve as my wedding band and I’m happy with it but I still don’t think it’s as blingy as I wish it were.
Because of the style of the wrap, it has to be soldered to my Engagement Ring.
So herein lies my question: what happens if I want to upgrade in the future? What are my options?
I never want a completely brand-new different ring, but I’ve thought about these things:
1. Upgrading only the solitaire – is that possible with the way this will be soldered?
2. Getting a new ring modeled after this one, only with pave bands instead of plain, and keeping the current diamonds where they are
Can you think of any other ideas??
Post # 3
@208bride- I know exactly where you are coming from!! I had some of the same insecurities about my ring since we got engaged with my promise ring and had people ask me that exact question ” when’s he getting you a real ring” ugh. We then were gifted my husbands moms engagement ring (from a broken marriage) that was 1/3 carat. I found a wrap that gave it enough pizzaz but never soldered them together in hopes of upgrading at some point, and I’m VERY thankful I didn’t! We just ordered my new set and I’m now selling the wrap and keeping his moms ring for sentimental value. Ultimately you have to be in love with what you are wearing and looking at everyday! My suggestion is to either ramp up the look of the ring with a new wrap, maybe one with pave diamonds on either side since it sounds like you like that look or you could see how much room you have to go bigger with the center stone in the wrap you have. if you do decide to get a whole new set you can always make the set you have now a right hand ring since that is the first ring he proposed with. Good luck and keep us posted, I’d love to see what you end up going with!!!
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2011 - Midland, TX
I’d get a halo wrap like this one:
to add some bling and make the center to look bigger (if that’s what you want)
Post # 5
First of all. Theta Love!!
Second, if you solder it, you can unsolder it later. 😉 So no worries there. I am sorry you do not love your ring. 🙁
Post # 6
@jcent: TLAM! Thanks 🙂 I think I was just down last night! I had no idea you could unsolder it!! That’s amazing! I think when we’re ready/able we will just have the second option custom made …. just a recreation with the same stones, but with pave bands. I don’t actually need a *bigger* stone, I just want more sparkle! 🙂 Thanks again!
Post # 7
@jcent: MORE AND MORE THETA LOVE TO YOU BOTH!!! * * Alpha Mu Alumni here 🙂
I agree, it can be unsoldered. So, don’t worry about that! But, personally, I wouldn’t change a thing! Maybe an upgrade on the size of the stone, but your set is gorgeous!
Post # 8
@MissBatman: TLAM! <3 Love the support, thanks so much. I just don’t know what I’d do with my stone if I got a bigger one! I’ve thought about moving it to a RHR and having it be the center stone of a mother’s ring or something. I just don’t know! I guess I don’t have to decide anytime soon.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2010 - parent\'s backyard
anything that has been soldered can be released, if that helps your decision. soldering does not have to be permanent.