(Closed) Potential problem with friends gf

posted 4 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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Kandykane :  yes, invite her. If you think she’s jealous/insecure now, you’re only splitting that crack open wider if you don’t invite her. She doesn’t have to come if she doesn’t want to, but extend the invitation to her if you want to remain friends with him (otherwise but I can see this turning into a situation where she forces him to choose sides)

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Yes invite her. Not doing so could potentially create more problems. By inviting her she has the option of saying no. 

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Your friend is a shitty boyfriend. Why the hell is he telling you everything his girlfriend says? If he would my friend I’d tell him to knock that shit out. 

But to answer your question: yes, invite her. If she decides not to come that’s her decision.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Invite her and hope that she declines.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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hikingbride :  I agree – what’s said in private should stay private, and OP should tell her friend so. OP’s friend is a terrible bf, gossiping to you about her.

Anyway OP, she’s polite to your face, so she’s not going to disrupt the wedding, so what possible problem is there? Of course invite her.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

honestly if she’s polite to your face, what more can she do? Everyone is allowed to not like people and maybe complain in private about them to their SO… I know I’ve done it. But then it’s not a problem because I am still a decent and polite person when I’m with them and my SO doesn’t go and tell them that I don’t like them! On one hand, it’s not very nice that she’d talk like that about his own friends to him, but it’s not fair to her if he’s sharing private conversations

I think that as long as she is your friends’ girlfriend, you should probably just invite her 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2004

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Kandykane :  the only thing im worried about is if shes going to give him a hard time at the wedding cause she always give him a hard time when we hang out.

and you don’t think she’d give him a more difficult time if he were invited without her? 

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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Kandykane :  But you say he’s had this girlfriend for “several years”, and he still came gossiping to you about her after your engagement, which can’t have been long ago. So it sounds like he’s been gossiping about her much longer than “when they started dating”. If at all possible, you should tell him to stop it. It’s terrible behaviour.

Anyway, if you don’t invite her, she’ll have a legitimate reason to talk crap about you. There’s also a chance the Groomsmen will drop out of the wedding.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

you said yourself that she’s nothing but polite when she’s around you guys.  She won’t ruin the wedding, so she’s really none of your concern.  If you want him to break up with her, this is not the way to tell him.

also, I don’t trust guys who air their dirty laundry like that.  One of my exes did that–I found out because he accidentally CC’d his friend instead of BCC’ing her when sending me an email during a fight.  Very long story short: she finally found out my side of the story (he cheated on me physically with one girl and emotionally with another: he’d conveniently left that part out).  You don’t know half as much as you think you know.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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Kandykane :  your friend sounds like a pot stirrer & a gossip. I feel badly for his Girlfriend who probably has no idea he is blabbing about stuff she tells him in confidence. 

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