Post # 1
Hello ladies of the Hive! One of my bridesmaids is currently attempting to conceive. I’ve been asked to take this into consideration in choosing the bridesmaid dress. My wedding is in September and I’m not sure what to do about choosing a dress–Should I pick out a maternity bridesmaid dress just in case? Should I have her buy a non-materity dress a couple sizes larger? Anyone else deal with a bridesmaid who got pregnant after the dresses were ordered?
Post # 3
Why not just buy something with an empire waist and a flowy skirt? Or let all the bridesmaids pick their own dress in a certain color range?
If she gets pregnant immediately, she would be 5 months pregnant by the wedding which means that a few sizes big may not be enough. A maternity dress would probably look a little silly if she ends up not getting pregnant, and could be a little depressing if she’s having trouble getting pregnant.
How far in advance do you need to buy the dresses? If you could leave it until 3 months or so before the wedding, and she’s not pregnant yet, you could probably get a dress a size or 2 bigger and not have any worries.
Post # 4
My Maid/Matron of Honor will be 8 1/2 months pregnant and my bridesmaid will have had a baby six weeks before my wedding. So…. we talked and since my requirements for the dresses were black and tea length decided we would buy off the rack, fairly close to the wedding date to ensure proper fit. It’s hard to fit a prego woman 4 months before the wedding in a maternity dress… you know. I have had a hard time finding maternity Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses that are cute. So we’ve looked other places for just dresses… Macy’s and Nordstroms has very cute maternity dresses. And in the end their dresses may not be the same due to doing it this way, but they’ll both be in my wedding and that’s all I really care about! The non maternity dress a couple sizes to big might be a good idea depnding on how prego she’ll be and how much you want to pay for alterations. Good luck with the hunt.
Post # 5
<span style=”font-size: 7.5pt; font-family: ‘Verdana’,’sans-serif'”>My situation may be easier because my girls are wearing the same designer, same color and same fabric dress, but I had them all pick whichever dress they wanted. However, my BF is in the process of trying to get pregnant. They just order her dress in a larger size and in a longer length. I believe that some dresses are easier to alter than others, but the dress she picked is gorgeous and will look good on her pregnant or not pregnant. <span style=”font-size: 7.5pt; font-family: ‘Verdana’,’sans-serif'”>To give you an idea. This is the dress she is wearing in my wedding and we just ordered it so there is a chance that she could be 5-6 months pregnant at the time of my wedding and they said that altering in will not be an issue. (you might have to copy and paste the link)
Post # 6
Hey, good question! My sister is getting married this August, and I’ve been trying to help find appropriate bridesmaid dresses, but one of the bridesmaids is also trying to get pregnant… We’ve batted around different dress options for a while. I *think* that we’ve come to a place where we’ve basically waited until only 3-4 months out from the wedding and then we should be able to order/buy dresses pretty confidently. I advocated that as a possiblity at the beginning since I love Ann Taylor & J Crew Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses (and we can order those more last-mintue), but I think we’ve gotten to that conclusion mostly by dragging our feet in not-quite-deciding. At that point, even if she does conceive after we buy the dresses, then any changes should be minor enough that a seamstress could help out.
It’s not perfect, but I think it should work… er, right?
Post # 7
I ordered my dresses from 1koo.com. You send them a picture of the dress you want and they custom make it the color and fabric that you choose to your measurements and have it at your door in 2 months.
This is what I did for my bridesmaids because they didn’t all want to wear the same dress (very different body shapes and personalities) and I wanted them to wear the dresses again, but I didn’t want a "rainbow" bridal party. The dresses that they liked were from all different companies, so we couldn’t get them in the same color.
This might be a good choice for you? All your bridesmaids can choose a style that they like, and the maternity style can be made to match perfectly in whatever color/fabric you want and you don’t have to decide until 2 months before the wedding so you should have a good idea of how big she will be.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2021 - The Desmond Hotel in Malvern, PA
My Maid/Matron of Honor is going to be 2 weeks away from her due date at my wedding! We ordered the dresses before she was pregnant, but I knew she was trying. I happened to love an empire waist dress, which will work as a pregnancy dress, too, so it worked out perfectly. She ordered several sizes larger than she is upon the recommendation of the woman at the bridal shop we went to; they’ll alter it a few weeks before the wedding to fit her, and if it’s too small we are ordering extra fabric from the dress designer (Alfred Sung) just in case.
I am not ruling out letting her buy another dress if this one simply won’t work. If I ever notice that bridesmaids are wearing different dresses from one another in a wedding, it’s usually an afterthought; I’d rather she be comfortable and happy than matchy matchy. As long as the color matches and the style isn’t too far from the others, she can wear whatever works best.
Post # 9
I had the same situation, and she is actually pregnant now. I also chose an empire waist dress with stretchy fabric in an extra large size, since it can always be altered down.
Post # 10
she won’t be showing that much unless she gets pregnant now, so I would just get a dress a couple sizes larger, but others have suggested empire waist dresses which I think solves all your problems
Post # 11
I was asked to be a bridesmaid to a friend. I told her I was trying to get pregnant when she graciously asked me to be part of her wedding party. Now I’m not sure if it would be a good idea when she presented me with this gown. Lots of cleavage. Since it takes at least 4 months to get the dress delivered, is it ok to decline the offer? It is 8 months before her wedding. I do not know how pregnant I would be. What are your thoughts?
Post # 12
Redthread, I would base your decision on your relationship with the bride and whether you would like to be a part of her wedding, not the dress itself. In regards to the dress, you could get it altered if you need to- perhaps you could order a larger size, and a great seamstress could create a little privacy panel to cover up some of the cleavage. I would say that the bride isn’t considering your potential body size with this dress, but I guess that would be hard if she doesn’t know how far along you will be.