Post # 1
- Wedding: Majestic Ventures Yacht
What do you think about a potluck post wedding celebration?
We live in Birmingham, AL and have many friends and some family here but we have decided to have a destination wedding in my home state, Texas. The wedding is going to be only 100-120 people close family and friends. We’ve caught a lot of complaints from people here in Alabama because they will either not be able to make the wedding or they’re not going to be invited. My fiancee and I are people pleasers to an extent and love all our friends here in Alabama. So, we were thinking about having a potluck post wedding celebration at our church…
I’ve read online that potluck wedding receptions can be considered tacky… but we’re not having a wedding reception we’re wanting to have a post wedding celebration. By the time the wedding is all over we would have spent just way too much money to be able to pull off another full out catered wedding back in Alabama…
1. What do you think?
2. How could it be done on a tight budget?
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
I think that would be perfectly fine. You may want to stick to asking specific family members to bring a dish instead of having it advertised as pot-luck. I’m sure your close family and friends would be willing to help out.
Post # 3
furturemrsventura: I think your friends in AL will feel like second class friends.
By all means have a post wedding celebration, but don’t ask your friends to bring the food.
Have a celebration you can afford- something casual like a BBQ, or serve pasta.
Post # 4
furturemrsventura: I think a pot luck is fine. You can even ask them to bring food. But make it clear you don’t want gifts. It would be tacky to ask for gifts from people who weren’t invited to the wedding.
Post # 5
furturemrsventura: We did a potlock post wedding celebration and it was awesome! Were both from the south so our families love pouring their love into their food & sharing it with everyone. It was actually heavily suggested by my family from the get go. We did make it very clear to everyone coming that they didn’t have to bring anything unless they wanted (ie friends traveling an hour+ with kiddos, or relatives from out of town) and also that we expected no gifts from anyone. We did ours in a state park pavilion so there were BBQ’s already setup, and I spent probably a little over $250 on snacks, sides, and main dishes that I made myself so that no-one else would have to deal with the brunt of the meal….
Post # 6
- Wedding: Cottage on the Creek
I’d say in this instance, you provide the meal (IE burgers & dogs if you want to grill out) and say bring a side? you want some sort of organization so you dont end up with ten of the same casserole and no meat. But I was raised in the south, pot lucks are the norm here.
Post # 7
Unless it’s a fundraiser or community event, I think potlucks are rude. Its pretending to host while displacing the effort and expense on your guests where it should be 100% on you.