Post # 1
So me and dear Fi have HUGE familys Great for get togethers and Holidays! But NOT so great for planning a budget wedding… So we picked out the venue! Found a caterer! Both at what i thnk to be great prices! (only slightly over 5,000) for both. Not too bad when venue includes all tables and chairs ect… and were having around 200 people! But im afraid that the other 5,000 isnt going to cover everything else well take another 1,500 for photography so 3,500 and that doesnt even include my dress that i found and is a great steal at 600(before alterations)
Ok now here is the actual problem yes we found a great caterer who is completly great with dealing with my odd allergys… But im keep being told to do a pot luck wedding by my overbairing bridesmaid and just do it like that it will save us so much money I am afraid that 1.there wont be enough food 2. someone might get sick due to it being a august wedding and the heat and all that might be a issue 3. We have people traveling a pretty good distance i wouldnt want to bring a potluck dish… and now for number 4. that it would be too tacky…
Yes i know i was venting and she was giving me an idea but I just cant see how it would work… Has anyone done this or is anyone planning on doing this and how would it work? I dont want the stress about worring about all the food and thats why we were doing a caterer in the first place…
Post # 3
I wouldn’t do potluck but not because i think its tacky. It may work for a small wedding if you can count on family to pitch in. But for 200 guests you might run yourself into trouble because people are often notorious for saying they are going to bring a dish and then turning up empty handed. You don’t want to find yourself in a situation on your wedding day of not having enough food to feed everyone. Plus too you have no idea how their dish is going to turn out or if it will taste good. You just have to hope for the best but with a caterer you get to sample the dishes before hand in most cases.
Post # 4
Honestly, I would go with the caterer. They are much more prepared to serve that many people, and your guests won’t run the risk of getting food poisoning and you won’t run out of food. Also, I am not sure about how your guests would feel about bringing their own food to your wedding. Out of town guests might not be able to bring anything. Also, the caterer will set up and break down everything for you, so you won’t have to worry about who will be responsible for the cleanup and making sure everything is set up nicely.
Post # 5
I would personally go with the caterer. Don’t worry about what the Bridesmaid or Best Man says. It’s your wedding and it is not the time to be worrying about wether you are going to have enough food, and since you have found one that can deal with your allergies all the better. Don’t let people talk you into what is not your vision for your day, let the day be yours and your FHs.
Post # 6
Thank you girls I knew i didnt want to do a pot luck but I just wanted to get a few more opionions! And yes I will be going with the caterer (as sit here with a swollen face because i screwed up and ate the wrong food) It would be alot less stress and this way i know i can eat all the food! lol
Post # 7
pot lucks only work if your family is up for it and it’s a small-medium size group. I wouldn’t do a pot luck for over 100 people. I don’t think it’s tacky. I’ve seen many many offbeat.com weddings that were potluck and the family and friends of the bride were very happy to help. You just have to know your guests. Plus, your venue might not even allow outside food if they have an in house caterer or an exclusive outside caterer. KWIM?