(Closed) potluck wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Food
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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maebae :  my parents did it back in the 80s when they got married. And a few Bees have done it when it’s a backyard BBQ type thing.

However, there are some real potential downsides that, to me, outweigh the benefit of saving money on a proper caterer. Such as food poisoning, allergens, and ensuring enough food for everyone.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

It could be really cool or really bad. At work, we had a potluck around Christmas and ten people brought donuts and another ten or so brought deviled eggs. So we ate…donuts and deviled eggs. So, yeah, there should definitely be some coordination so that not everyone brings one or two different things. It might also be good to gauge the interest of your guests in participating. I do agree with PP that it might just be easier to go with a caterer.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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maebae :  Could you just order a bunch of BBQ from a favorite BBQ place and have someone pick it up?

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

Honestly, I would rather be invited to a simple cake and punch affair at a non-meal time than a potluck anything for a large crowd (and 60 is fairly substantial).  I would be far more understanding of budget limitations meaning a cake and punch reception than the cost and work of the reception being offloaded to me as your guest.

Plus, are you planning to run extension cords for crockpots or whatever is necessary to keep hot foods hot?  And you also need to keep cold foods cold.  How do you ensure you have enough for everyone?  Who ends up potentially spending $50 ensuring there is a substantial entree and who gets by with a $2 bag of chips and a $3 jar of salsa?

If you give an idea of your budget and general location, perhaps some people can give you tips.  Otherwise, I would just do cake and punch if you’re on that tight of a budget.  However, keep in mind that the reception should be the largest part of your budget outside of maybe photography if you’re serving a meal.  You may simply need to rework your budget to cut from elsewhere if possible if you’re dead set on a full meal.

$25 for a sheetcake at Costco, Sams, or grocery store.  Spend $20 getting cases of pop on sale.  Another $5 buying some iced tea or lemonade mix and borrow some pitchers if you don’t own any.  Spend $15 on disposable tableware.  And spend say another $50 buying a couple of veggie trays and a couple of fruit trays to offer an option besides cake.  Have the wedding at 2pm, get people out the door by 5 or 530 and they can make their own dinner plans.

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

if you’re into BBQ it should be easy to have catered. much easier than wrangling your guests to bring dishes, try to store them at the right temperature, avoid cross contamination for people with allergies… best to let someone else deal with all that headache.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

Sorry but I don’t like the idea of a potluck wedding at all. I completely understand wanting to cut costs, just not this way. As a guest I shouldn’t have to work to attend your wedding and cooking enough food for 60 is WORK, even if its just a side dish. If this is the norm in your social circle and it was like 20 people or less then maybe. But you want to try and accommodate 60 guests for under $600? Not likely. Cut the guest list way down or have a cake and punch reception. But this….nope.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

This isn’t a good idea for this many people. For a small gathering of 10-20, maybe a potluck works. But not for a wedding- how are you going to keep the hot foods hot and the cold foods cold during the ceremony? Are all of your guests food-safety knowledgeable? If people get sick from food poisoning you could be liable. Plus, if I were your guest I wouldn’t want to have to carry a bowl of potato salad into your wedding wearing heels and a nice dress. 

Have a simple cake and punch reception or cut your guest list. Host what you can afford, but host your guests fully. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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heavenlyflower :  Agree with this.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I can’t imagine how you would possibly feed 60 people for less than $600. Logistically, it would be a nightmare as other PP suggested – buying/preparing/serving/keeping hot etc. Remember at $10/person, the catering option includes the food, time consuming preparation and potentially the serving trays. I hate to be the jerk that says it, but if you can’t afford $10/person, I don’t think a full meal reception is the way to go. Either Drinks/appetizers or Cake and punch. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

go to Costco and buy some platters of food. Problem solved

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

$10/person catering is a steal. Can you not figure out a way to save up $600 in the next year and a half? Reduce expenses, babysit, drive for Uber?

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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maebae :  I don’t think potluck weddings are a good idea but if you do go that route make it clear to guests BEFORE they RSVP. I despise potlucks of any kind and I get so annoyed when it’s a bait and switch. 

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