Post # 1
We are potty training my two year old son, and after a rocky first few days he’s done really well holding his pee and sitting on the toilet when he needs to go. He has a lot of trouble actually releasing his pee- he will say potty! then run to sit on the toilet, nothing will come out, so he’ll run around and play for a minute then try again. He’ll go hours without peeing so we know he has to go, it’s just a matter of him learning to relax and release on command. Every now and then he’ll finally go on the toilet but only after a long time and after many, many tries.
We have tried having him play with warm water, blowing bubbles, and tickles which all are supposed to help. Any other ideas? It may just be time, but welcome any suggestions or tips!
Post # 2
It sounds to me like he’s not ready. I would probably back off and wait a few months and try again. Most boys train closer to age 3.
Otherwise, I would try having him naked from the waist down and see if that helps.
Post # 3
Is he 24 months or 35 months old? My initial reaction is take a break and try again in another month or two. But if there’s a pressing reason he needs to be trained asap:
Have you tried having him stand to pee? My son just turned 3 and he stands like 75% of the time
Post # 4
indiblue : my daughter started being interested in the potty really early. For a long time she would go into the bathroom to poop in her diaper so we got her a little potty and she would sit on it fully clothed and still use her diaper. Then around 20 months she started going in the potty for real before getting in her bath. Now she’s 24 months and uses it usually morning/night and will sometimes ask to try it during the day (but not every day). Perhaps try having him sit to pee on the potty, but with a diaper so he gets used to it as the place to pee and then work towards removing the diaper.
Post # 5
I also think it sounds like he’s not ready. My son would occassionally go on the potty from age 2 to 3, but whenever we attempted to train, he was not interested. There are lots of google pages with the signs for being ready to potty train. I would check those out. When my son turned three, it was like the lightbulb went off and he was totally ready for it. It only took one weekend of constant reminders, and then a couple of weeks of monitoring, before he was good to go. The more you wait for him to be truly ready, the easier training will be (generally speaking).
Post # 6
Maybe letting the water flow. Or having breathing exercises. I sometimes have trouble releasing my pee and I breath out and it trickles out
Post # 7
sounds like you have a camel on your hands.
i followed the oh crap method to potty train my son. there is a chapter on fear of release. i didn’t have this issue with my son. so i don’t recall what the chapter said, but might be worth checking out.
not sure what method you followed, but oh crap was awesome. they said the prime window is 20-30 months. i didn’t know this, read the book when my son was 29 months and quickly jumped on at 30 months. my daughter is 18 months. she tells me after she pees. she’s ready. but i’m not ready and plan to train her around 22/24 months.
Post # 8
Thanks for everyone’s insights! I totally respect parents decisions to wait til closer to 3, but we live overseas and the United States (I’m American 🙂 train late compared to the rest of the world. Where we live, parents train at 18 months.Neithrr is “right” but I think the US view that kids just aren’t ready until closer to 2 or 3 is one of many perspectives. i did not feel he was ready at 18m but I do think cognitively, emotionally, and physically he is ready now.
We are also about to go through major life changes over the next year (moving across the world, new baby, starting daycare, another move) so this is the most stable and comfortable time frame we will have to work on this.
Everyone needs to do what is right for their own kid, but I am confident he’s ready. He understands, he can physically hold his pee, wakes up hedry after naps, wants to go in the potty, but it’s only Day 4 and he’s still learning how to release. It’s really good advice to work on breathing and water. We also have Oh Crap and I’ll go back and re-read her recommendations.
Thank you again all for weighing in!
Post # 9
When my neice was potty training she would sit on the toilet but not do anything. One day big sis filled a cup up with water and slowly poured it in the toilet (while little sis was sitting on the toilet). Little sis then started to pee. We arent sure if it was a coincidence or not but it worked and after a few times she got the hang of going on her own.
Post # 10
Saru0211 : so great, thank you!! We will try this!
Update on Day 5: Two pees in the potty, no accidents. Still not going that often (I think he tries, definitely drinking a lot) but no accidents! He is very proud. We are getting there
Post # 11
It helps my son if I’m distracted. I think feeling “watched” makes him self concious? So I usually go in with him and offer to read a book to him and act super engrossed in it. I switch out the books every night, so there’s always new stories, and I think the distraction and not being watched helps him relax….
Post # 12
Update on Day 6- peeing without issue today! 4 times in the potty and one poop!! it just took a couple of days to learn the process of peeing on command. We have learned so much and I really appreciate everyone’s help!