(Closed) Practically a Novel – “budget. bad. stick head in sand? or change my ways?”

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

While you may feel crazy, nothing in this post indicates you’re on the trip to crazy town just yet. Try not to be so hard on yourself. It sounds like you have a good/realistic attitude going in and know when to reel yourself in. Someone taped our wedding and for the life of me, I can’t remember if we ever watched it anyway.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I have done the same thing! We originally set our budget at $25,000, not including honeymoon, rehearsal dinner, or wedding bands. We are at $34,000. We do not have anyone contributing anything. I thought as I started planning that there would be some things that aren’t as important and I would cut, wrong. Everything seems like I would regret it if I cut it. I last minute added the videographer ($1250) and fabric draping of the walls for where our ceremony is ($1100). I found the biggest regret for most brides was not having a video. I even told my FH “if I died wouldn’t you want to watch our wedding video?”. Or what if our kids want to watch it. Either way I find myself rationalizing every penny spent. When I add all the things that aren’t included in our budget we are at $43,500. Insane, but we are not cutting, we are moving forward. The goal is no debt…at this point worse case is we end up with $2500 on the credit card, I can live with that.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We had a budget of $40,000, which I think is already crazy high. We live in a major city and it seems like that drives up the price on all of the basic stuff. At this point, we’re somewhere between $60,000-70,000. We did a lot of things that people say to do to cut down the costs (cut the guest list, Friday night, DJ instead of band, shop discount stores, buy linens and resale after, use new up and coming florist, loads of DIY) . Even my little details are only about $1,000 of that big chunk of money. My fiance and I decided that we’re okay with this big, expensive wedding. We’re lucky that our parents are helping out some, but we are paying for most of it ourselves. So far, we haven’t gotten into debt over it and it looks like we will steer clear of that. But, it still is sooooo much money for one day. When my future sister in law got married 5 years ago the cost of everything was half of what we’re paying. It doesn’t seem fair. We want a fancy wedding and we sure are paying an arm and leg for it.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We’re estimating 150 people. It’s a sit down dinner with a cocktail hour and an open bar (5.5 hours) We’re in the San Francisco bay area, so it drives up the price on most of the vendors. We had to go outside of the city because San Francisco was waaaaay too expensive. We would have to spend $100,000+ for they same wedding.

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