Post # 1
I’ll begin by saying I think I’m overthinking this 😉
But – I wanted to get your thoughts on praising your spouse on facebook – either on your wall as a status update or on their wall as a post.
My Darling Husband recently signed up for FB, so I never really had this ‘issue’ before; but I know that some of my friends often post things about their spouses either as part of their status update or on their wall.
A couple friend of mine recently celebrated an anniversary and both of their status updates waxed on about how lucky they were to have married the other and listed things they appreciated about their spouse.
Another friend always posts things to their spouses wall about nice things they’ve done.
Before Darling Husband was on FB – I always wondered why that person didn’t just communicate with their spouse in a more private way… but I wondered if maybe it was just a different way to share appreciation (and shout it from the rooftops, so to speak)!
The question came up in my head because Darling Husband cooked me the most fantastic dinner last night, then tonight made me a yummy bfast and took care of something on my car… and he’s likely going to make me dinner tonight (it’s his day off)… and I was feeling overwhlemingly grateful… and I almost created a FB post about it – but stopped myself because I realized I could just thank Darling Husband personally or in a private email without it seeming like a big brag fest.
(See – I TOLD you I was overthinking this)…. but, I AM curious how you handle FB posts to and about your spouse 🙂
Post # 3
I totally know what you mean. There are people I know who do this ALL the time. I always think there’s a problem if you feel the need to broadcast this ALL the time. Why not just tell your spouse?
I might once in a blue moon do it. 🙂
Post # 4
ha, I think its weird and kind of boastful when you overly communicate with someone you live with on facebook. Why would you do it unless you wanted everyone to know how lucky you are/wonderful your husband is since you live together? I think every now and then it is nice, but the people that do it all the time, ugh, its just annoying 🙂
I communicate with my husband and my close friends/family directly, not on FB
Post # 5
I think bragging on our spouses is AWESOME and we should do it when we feel like doing so…. just like you totally bragged on him here (even though the post title was for something different)
I don’t do it all the time b/c then I feel it get’s a little eye roll worthy & over-rated but when I know that I couldn’t have made it through my day with my sanity without him… or he goes over & beyond just being awesome, then you better believe I brag… usually in my status telling others about his awesomeness but occasionally on his wall telling him…. but the latter is very occasional b/c I usually just tell him face to face.
that’s right.. My Husband is AWESOME! lol
I just wouldn’t use his wall to blow cyber kisses. lol
Post # 6
I don’t think you need to justify advertising what is going on in your relationship on facebook at all. Like you, I would show my appreciation in person or a kind gesture in return. I find announcements on status’ slightly cheesy and.. dare I say it, lazy?
Besides, you can’t read into everything on facebook. My friend on facebook and her boyfriend used to publicly declare their love for each other everyday in statuses/photos etc. Behind the scenes, they had an argument, she moved out and they broke up. All the while they made believe they were blissfully happy, when they were far from it in reality. Shame really..
Post # 7
I think it is SO weird when people write on their spouse’s wall… why can’t you just talk to them in person?? I know a couple who does this soooo much, but the guy 100% just wants other girls to “like” the post so he feels good about himself. I know other couples just do it to be nice, but this guy makes me hate it no matter who’s doing it.
Honestly, when people brag about their spouses in their status I kind of think “good for him/her that they have someone who treats them well”… but whenever I think of posting about my husband I usually stop myself. I don’t like brag posts and I don’t want it to look like I’m bragging, plus I rarely post anything even remotely personal. I’d only post about him if it was something funny that I think my friends would appreciate.
Post # 8
I think there’s a difference between writing on DH’s wall and making a status post. If you were to write on his wall then yes, you could have just told him in person. But for example, if you made a status that said something along the lines of.. “Amazing dinner two nights in a row AND breakfast in bed? I have one amazing hubby!” then it’s a more public way of acknowledging what he did and your appreciation!
I definitely get tired of the people who do this too much though, as well as people who post mushy gushy stuff allll the time. Yuck!
Post # 9
My Darling Husband has posted about me like once to congratulate me on taking my GMATs. I thought it was really sweet. All the time? No. For big, actual accomplishments. Yes. My Darling Husband made dinner last night, I didn’t post about it. He’s supposed to make dinner once in awhile.
Post # 10
I cant stand the couples that post to each others walls to say thank you or whatever. Like really?? Of all the ways to communicate with your SO, you choose facebook!? But a status brag (used sparingly) is not so bad.
Post # 11
@spaneshal: Good point. I am friend’s on fb with a friend’s mom. She always posts those copy and paste statuses about “if you have an amazing husband who is your rock, your strength…” blah blah blah. In reality I know from my friend that his parents rarely talk and his mom seems to be tired of his dad and he thinks she wants to leave and stuff. Sometimes I think people just want to make themselves and their relationships look good on facebook.
Post # 12
@pinkshoes: yea… I want to say the last time I posted on DH’s wall was for his birthday….. b/c my birthday post HAD to be better than everyone elses! lol
But I have bragged in my status about him doing something awesome that made me feel great or REALLY helped me out & especially is I wasnt’ expecting it.
Post # 13
Why can’t it be both??? Why can’t I boast about how wonderful he is and tell him face to face. And just because i do boast about him on FB, doesn’t mean that he doesn’t get the appreciation face to face. I personally do this alllll of the time. I really could care less what other people think about me doing it either. I don’t do it to the point where its all i talk about, but it’s quite often. I find nothing wrong with it at all. So yea, i think you’re overthinking it just a tad.
Post # 14
I’m guilty of posting about how wonderful Darling Husband is from time to time on my FB page. He doesn’t have FB though, so he doesn’t see it…but I like doing it. B/c then he’ll get comments from friends about whatever amazing thing he did and it makes him feel good :o) Sometimes, it’s not about boasting, it’s about talking about your blessings rather than your shortcomings all the time (which so many people tend to do).
Post # 15
i think that kind of bragging on your husband is awesome so that you’re sharing/thanking at the same time. the FB posts i don’t like are directly on their wall and say things like “you’re right next to me in bed and i’m just so lucky/thankful/whatever” THAT kind of thing you should say to their face. (and yes, that’s an actual wall post from a friend of mine.)
Post # 16
I think it’s ok and cute once in awhile… the people that do it all the time, I have to roll my eyes because I don’t know who they are trying to convince.
I personally don’t really do it because my H doesn’t have facebook so it doesn’t make a lot of sense. I also try to keep my facebook pretty neutral and not get into really personal stuff.