(Closed) Prayer before dinner at reception?

posted 10 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Is a blessing/prayer said before dinner at reception ok?

    Yes-it reflects the bride and groom's religious upbringing/beliefs

    No, it might make people uncomfortable

    It might make people uncomfortable but say it anyway

  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’ve been at weddings where they have done this and it made me uncomfortable but I survived. If it is important to you and your Fiance do it.

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We are definetely going to do this.  At every family gathering since I can remember my Gramps has said a prayer before we eat.  I would like him to do the same at my reception dinner (which is only for immedate family up to aunts/uncles).

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    If its important to you , than your guest will understand!

    Its not a crime to pray, public or private 🙂

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @AirForceFiance: I would do it if it reflects you/your Fiance and your families. There are many ways to go about it that would be least-offensive/uncomfortable to folks.

    I know my church does what I call an ‘invitation’ to pray, something along the lines of “those who would like to join us in prayer are welcome to do so at this time.” I’d think that just recognizing that some may prefer not to will help ease their discomfort level. Maybe? 

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee

    I have been to weddings that did this also, and though it made me a bit uncomfortable, I got through. I just sit there silent and politely wait. You should do what makes you happy, people will get through it.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    For me it actually depends on the wording. I find very evangelical prayers very uncomfortable (particularly when very heavy on the references to Jesus), others are more bearable.

    That said, I’m sure that my other half and my dad have found it very uncomfortable at Jewish weddings with prayers in Hebrew both before and after the meal.

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @LGenz: I agree with this!  I’m not a pray-er (one who prays? prayer?)  but I would be understanding and be respectful during the prayer.  Just as long as it doesn’t go on forever, then I might get a little irritated. 

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We had a quick grace.  DH is religious, I’m not.

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @SpecialSundae: That’s also a very good point, I feel like the more general it is the less likely to offend.  If I was at a wedding and someone started going on about Jesus hanging on the cross so we could be here today, etc. I might start to look around the room with a strange look on my face.  

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee

    People sit through hours or religious or cultural ceremonies.  Why should a prayer at the beginning of a meal be so bad? I think you are fine to have grace before your reception meal.

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I am 100% athiest. By DH is Christian and I respect that. We had a prayer before dinner that his father said and it was pretty much asking to bless the food and our marriage. It was honestly very sweet.

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