Prayer in support of gay marriage.

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think the first two would be good, but the third one is pretty obvious and I don’t know if your priest would say it.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Good for you girl! As a Catholic as well, I think this is a great idea. I like the second one best.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I like the 2nd one as well. What an amazing gesture.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

we said our prayers of the faithful and did this with ours. we said “for all those joined in love throughout the world, may they…” blahblahblah i can’t remember, you get the gist!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@meginstl: no prob, i found a copy of it on my computer! i had a shout out in there to my brother & his fiancee, so you would just ignore that part. you could say “commit themselves to each other” or “make a lifelong commitment” instead of marry if you want to keep it ambiguous.

For all couples joined in love throughout the world, and for those preparing to marry – especially (Brother) and (Brother’s Fiancee). May their love and devotion to one another be strengthened. We pray to the Lord.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think that is so sweet of you.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Can I ask why you are having a Catholic wedding if you disagree with the Church’s fundamental moral teachings regarding marriage? Please don’t take this personally, but it would seem rather unkind and disrespectful to do this in a house of worship during a religious ceremony. I am sure the pastor would not appreciate it, at all, and if you have any Catholic-believing guests they may be VERY offended by your choice of platform as well. Especially as it is a fairly conservative parish. If you wish to express the sentiment, that’s fine but choose a different platform. A toast or speech at your reception perhaps.

Perhaps the most authentic, and respectful, choice would be to not have a Catholic wedding at all, as you do not agree with the Catholic understanding of marriage.

But I have to say in general it’s a good idea to avoid pairing political statements with weddings. Unless you have a truly monochrome guest list, you will be in the company of people coming from a beautiful diversity, a rainbow of religious and philosophical backgrounds, and a good hostess of course would strive to avoid hurting anyone’s feelings or coming off self-rightous.

Especially at a wedding which is about joining people together and not dividing them into “people who think the right way” and “people who think the wrong way.” Other “issues” which typically divide more than they unite people include pro-life, pro-choice, sexual choices in general, financial choices, electoral politics and so forth. The old rule about not discussing politics, sex, or money at a social event transfers well to wedding planning.

Perhaps you could privately give a donation to a pro-gay marriage charity in honor of you wedding? I’m concerned you might make some of your guests feel very unwelcome, besides the issue of disrespect to the Church. I’m sure you mean well and I’m sure there is a way to incorporate this if it is very important to you.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Magdalena: this. Very well written, Magdalena.

That being said, I’m also a terrible Catholic, who is having a Catholic ceremony- but it seems off to me, adding that to the prayer of the faithful (though I agree with it 100% and do think it is sweet of you).

I think that it’s okay if you have a more modern view about certain things than the church would be comfortable with, but I don’t think it’s okay to be deceptive about it and use tricky wording to stick it in a prayer.

I really like Magdalena’s suggestion that you highlight a particular organization during some aspect of your reception, I think it would be more appropriate there.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@meginstl: i think the one you posted is a little too in your face, tbh. i’d pull it back because the way it’s written it will definitely raise some eyebrows and adding that line makes it kind of a tongue twister too! go back to the sentiments of what you want to pray for, not the legalities.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I hope not to offend with my comment, but please reconsider what you are doing.

The Catholic Church is completely against same-sex marriage, therefore it would inappropriate to include such a prayer within the sacred space of a Catholic church. Personal agendas and politics do not belong in the sacred space. Even though the sentiment is ambiguous, the real meaning of it is contrary to Church teaching, At this point I don’t think anyone can to convince you otherwise, but it is simply incorrect to include this intention within the context of a Catholic ceremony.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Magdalena:  You can still agree with the Church while still maintaining that the gov’t should not be legislating in regards to a religious ceremony.  I 100% support gay marriage b/c it’s not our gov’ts job to dictate who can and can’t marry. Gov’t marriage does not equal religious marriage in my opinion.

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