Post # 1
How many names of people can/should we include in the “For the deceased” portion of the prayer of the faithful? I was thinking just our grandparents (4), but my Fiance wants to also include aunts and uncles who have passed (years ago) which would make it more like 8. I think it is a nice thought, that just seems like a lot of names and I don’t know if that’s acceptable. Any thoughts?
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2014 - Catholic Church and Lord Hill Farms
Ive been to some Catholic weddings where they only do more recent deaths, some where its only more immediate family members and some where its everyone in your family who has passed away since you were born (all 30 of them!) If it would truly make your Fiance happy to add 4 more names then I say accomodate it. 10 maybe not so much
Post # 4
we didn’t mention any specific names in our prayer. it actually didn’t occur to me to do so. what we did do was have a memorial table set up at the reception with a candle and a poem and we listed the names of our loved ones at the bottom. maybe that would be a good compromise for you guys?
Post # 5
Can you just make a blanket statement saying “our deceased loved ones who could not be here today” – and perhaps list the names on the back of the program, if you have space?
Post # 6
We did only the deceased grandparents (I have one deceased uncle, but he died before I was born). We also did one along the lines of “For those loved ones who could not attend but are here in our hearts, especially Grandfather’s name and Uncle’s name” for my grandfather who is in a nursing home and uncle who was very ill in the hospital at the time. That one was a bit of a fight with my husband and inlaws–they wanted me to include the members of their side who could not attend because of money, which was ridiculous; I just wanted to pray for loved ones who were sick.