(Closed) Prayer of the faithful?

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

We had our 2nd interview with the deacon marrying us last night. (omg did you have to do the focus? its sooo long!)

Anyway this isn’t a prayer of the faithful but its beautiful.

The deacon marrying us just emailed it to me andhighly suggested we use it. 

 

 HAND PRAYER
Grooms     Please take your bride’s hands in yours with the palms up and look at them.
These are the hands that will hold yours, as she pledges her love to you and accepts your ring.
These are the hands that are smooth, young and carefree now, but will become lined and rougher in the years ahead from all the hard work of making your house a home.
These are the hands that, God willing, will hold you in joy and excitement, when she says you are going to have a child, that together you have created new life.
These are the hands that will hold each child in tender love, soothing them through illness, praying for them, and wringing them in worry, when trouble comes.
These are the hands that through the years will caress you in the passion of love.
These are the hands that will hold yours as you explore the wonders of the world together.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your face and wipe tears from your eyes, in wonder and awe that you would cry for her.
Brides         Please take your groom’ s hands in yours with the palms up and look at them.
These are the hands, young, strong and vibrant with love that will hold yours on this day as he promises to love you all the days of his life.
These are the hands that, God willing, you will place with expectant joy beneath your heart one day until he, too, feels his child stir within your womb.
These are the hands that look so large and clumsy now, yet will be so gentle, when he holds your baby for the first time.

These are the bands that will work long hours and will get nicked and bruised from fixing things around the house to make you more comfortable.
These are the hands that will caress you throughout the years to make the passion of love come alive.
These are the hands that will wipe tears from your eyes, tears of sorrow and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will comfort you in illness and hold you, when fear or grief racks your mind.
These are the hands that will tenderly lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into his eyes, eyes that will be filled completely with his overwhelming love and desire for you.
PLEASE TAKE EACH OTHER’S HANDS:
These are the hands of the Sacrament of Matrimony.
These four hands are your armor and shield against the toils of the world.
These four hands are part of God’s plan for renewing His church.
These hands can reach out to the lonely and discouraged, bring hope to the destitute in mind and body, heal the abused and hurting children of the world, and teach your friends the wonders of married love.
These hands are the hope of a troubled humanity, for these are the hands that can change the world.
God Bless These Hands

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Double check to make sure your priest will be ok with deviating from the typical prayer. I think a lot of them are sticklers for tradition…

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

This is what we’re using.  It’s from the "Life Together" booklet that the preist gave us:

 
For leaders of Church and State, for heads of institutions, for heads of homes and households… that they will lead us and guide us in the search for goodness, in search for peace and joy, in search for love among us- Let us pray to the Lord.

For all married people:  for those who married yesterday, for the new couple Courtney and Erik, married today, for those who will marry tomorrow… that they may savor the joy of being together, warm love and children, a long life, wine, and friends, and a new day, every day- let us pray to the Lord.

For all young, single people who look forward to a vocation full of life and full of love- let us pray to the Lord.

For the lonely old and the lonely young, for the hungry rich and they hungry poor, for the sick in body, mind, and spirit, for the weakness in all of us- let us pray to the Lord.

For our relatives and friends who walk with us on life’s journey, and for those who have gone before us to the other side of life.  For the fulfillment of all their unfulfilled desires- let us pray to the Lord.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2008

We’re also sticking to the Life Together book.  You’ll need to check with your church as each church has their own preferences.  We were given the option of writing our own prayers of the faithful.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2008

We are also using the Life Together booklet however our priest told us that we can customize the prayer by adding our own prayers in or omitting some things.  We plan on adding in our decrased loved ones names as well.  Hope this helps!

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

You might also want to take a look at the prayers of the people in an Episcopal or Anglican wedding service (or just in the prayerbook)–they are very similar in form, with different variations.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2008

We were encouraged to write our own — it was about the only bit of the Catholic ceremony we could personalize.  It’s traditional to pray for the Church, for world leaders, etc,…but you don’t need to pray for conversions and you can make the focus on issues important to you.  You can PM me for a sample– cutting and pasting doesn’t work well for me here.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Actually, in the one I posted above, in the section below, I actually changed "God" to "goodness" because I felt it was more inclusive.

For leaders of Church and State, for heads of institutions, for heads of homes and households… that they will lead us and guide us in the search for GOODNESS, in search for peace and joy, in search for love among us- Let us pray to the Lord.

I’m not going to ask permission for the change.  I doubt the preist will notice.  At my sister’s wedding she left out the entire section praying for an end to abortion and the deacon had no idea.   She just printed out copies for the readers with the text she wanted, instead of relying on the booklet copies.

Post # 11
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Wannabee

 

 

Couples who choose to celebrate a marriage in the Catholic faith (or any faith for that matter) are agreeing to abide by the set liturgy of that faith.

The rites and rituals of the faith are part of a long standing history of the church.  People who choose to alter prayers etc, without permission are being selfish and dishonest.  How honorable are you if you change something within the liturgy because you do not agree or feel comfortable with it?  If you do not agree with the set liturgy of the faith, you have the option of celebrating your wedding elsewhere. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

We are having a Catholic nuptial mass and we are using the same form that rosychicklet posted. It is form 2 from the together for life booklet. Our priest has also told us that we have the option of writing our own. However, we liked the prewritten ones but we may personalize a few lines to include things that are important to us, or make an amalgam of several forms. If you have the together for life book you might see about doing this, or using what’s in there as a good starting point.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2008

We took the option in the together for life book to write our own, here’s how we personalized ours, as an engineer/art historian, with activist leanings. Our priest commented that he really liked it.

For the love shown here today between this couple and their friends and family, that it may continue to grow and enrich all of our lives, we pray.

For the parents of [bride and groom] whose examples and guidance have formed the foundation upon which they will build their life together, we pray.

For all those unable to attend today but are with us in spirit, we pray. For the safe return of everyone who has traveled to be here today, we pray.

For those preparing to wed, especially [all our engaged friends/family].

For those employed in technology and the sciences, as they work for new developments to improve all of our lives, we pray.

For those employed in the arts, who help us to see and think about the world in new and beautiful ways, we pray.

For those who have dedicated their lives to serving others and bettering our society, and that they may inspire us all, we pray.

For the eradication of the "isms" that keep people apart, we pray.

For the needs and concerns of [our parish], we pray.

For the prayers we hold in the silence of our hearts, we pray.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Romandy, normally I would agree with you, except this is one section of the liturgy where couples are explicitly told they can use the suggested version, modify it, or write their own, so I don’t think it is dishonest or deceitful at all to modify it.

RosyChicklet, I love your list (both variations!), it made me cry. I think we may just have to borrow it for ours!

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