(Closed) Prayer?

posted 8 years ago in Christian
  • poll: Salvation Prayer During Ceremony?
    Yes it is okay : (11 votes)
    11 %
    No it is inappropriate : (60 votes)
    61 %
    What is a salvation pray? : (28 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 17
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @knvprincess143: I think donating the gifts is a nice gesture. Is there a connection between that and the prayer that I’m missing?

    Post # 18
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @knvprincess143: Once you receive a gift, do what you will…I’m sure you’re friends will be fine with you donating the money to others who may need it more than you.  But this has nothing to do with your original post.

     

    Post # 20
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @knvprincess143: Is your pastor preaching a message during your ceremony?

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @regberadaisy: i was thinking that too.

    Post # 22
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @knvprincess143: I don’t think that would make many guests uncomfortable.  

    Post # 23
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    642 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @knvprincess143:  I don’t think this will make your guests uncomfortable in the same way that asking them to accept Jesus into their hearts will…

    It might be best though, to say something like “in lieu of gifts, please consider making a donation to [name of homeless shelter]” on your website, reception card, etc. so they don’t feel deceived in any way.

    Post # 24
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @knvprincess143: I don’t think any guests would have an issue with you choosing to give your monetary gifts to charity.  That’s a wonderful thing to do, and it’s very different than asking them to accept Jesus as their savior while they are attending your marriage ceremony…

    Post # 25
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @knvprincess143: I would be very offended if you started trying to get me to accept Jesus at your wedding. And for what it’s worth, there would be zero chance of some prayer changing my mind. 

    Post # 26
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I grew up with a very religious father and we went to church every Sunday without fail, but I would find it really inappropriate to lead others to Christ during your wedding.  It seems like an ambush.  Your guests are there to witness your vows, not to be witnessed to.  Obviously you feel strongly about it, so choose wisely and look for moments that help your cause.  Have a ceremony that speaks to Christ’s role in your lives together and with your actions and attitudes lead by example.  In doing so, you will inspire those who are curious.  Look for moments that are more comfortable for the other person.

    Post # 28
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @knvprincess143: I’m not sure how donating monetary gifts would make guests uncomfortable? But as a Christian myself, I think a wedding would be an inappropriate place for that prayer. Your pastor would have to give some kind of message about Jesus and salvation, and I guess I feel like a wedding isn’t the place- your guests are going to see your marriage, not sit through a long sermon. I think it would actually have the opposite effect and turn your friends and family off from Christianity, because it feels like you’re pressuring them.

    ETA: I’m assuming you’ll have Bible passages read at some point? Which is typical at weddings anyway. I think you can emphasize your passion for Jesus and be an example of his love without specifically asking anyone to pray the Salvation Prayer. If anyone wants to know more they can ask you later, as a PP mentioned.

    Post # 29
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    As an atheist, if I was to attend your wedding I would be very uncomfortable by this prayer. I wouldn’t get up and leave or anything but I certainly would not participate and I’d definitely have something to say about it afterwards (not to the couple but definitely to my Darling Husband who would be thinking the same thing as I was). If someone feels strongly that a higher power doesnt exist (like me), there is nothing that any priest or pastor can say to make me believe otherwise. 

    Your wedding is to celebrate you and your Darling Husband, not to try to get other people to believe what you believe. I don’t think it’s appropriate. 

    Post # 30
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Oh… you could always incorporate the ultimate “wedding” of Jesus being the bridgegroom and us bieng his bride to lead up to giving the opportunity.

    It’s still “wedding focused” and even becoming a “one” unit as husband & wife and then also us becoming one with Christ in getting to know him =)

    Maybe talk with your pastor about it and see if he would know best how/when to incorporate it =)

    Post # 31
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @Lemma:

    And for what it’s worth, there would be zero chance of some prayer changing my mind.

    Exactly. If I’m not believing now hearing a prayer at some wedding I went to is not going to give me a A-Ha! moment.

    @jjmomma:

    Have a ceremony that speaks to Christ’s role in your lives together and with your actions and attitudes lead by example.

    I really like your suggestion. That would not make me uncomfortable in any way because again you’re sharing his role in your life. Not saying that he should be in my life.

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