Post # 1
I am in a long-distance relationship, he lives in the UK I live here, we’ve been doing this for 2 years, and are having a very short engagement (5 months tops)
I just researched from my church you need to do pre-cana more than 6 weeks before, and register 6 months before, any way to get around it, can they bend the rules so we can get married in september, I am pushing 39 and dont have a lot of reproductive years left. It doesnt work out when you live in two different countries to do these pre-cana lessons.
On top of that all my colleagues are Jewish and I have to work around their schedule and cant marry last two weeks of September, if we wait til October it’ll take even longer to petition each other and it’ll be cold.
So many obstacles. I never wanted a huge extravagant ceremony because its so much money but all these details are hindering us from being together.
Any way to push the pre-cana even one week prior and to register less than 5 months prior?
Post # 3
You may also want to check out the Catholic Boards on here http://boards.weddingbee.com/board/catholic, people are always talking about their Pre-Cana experiences.
Also, we planned my sister’s wedding in 6 weeks, and she got married in a Catholic Church. (my Brother-In-Law is Baptist, not Catholic, also). They did complete a pre-Cana with our priest, it was a one evening session. Also, I’m getting married in NY but will be living in Cali for the year up to my wedding. The Church is allowing us to "transfer" our Pre-Cana.
Basically, it varies my parish and diocese. Unfortunately, we won’t really be able to answer exactly for your Church. Best solution — Call and ask to speak to a priest about your situation, they may be more flexible than you think.
Post # 4
hey gabbgal thanks, I havent spoken with my priest yet, I just got the brochure yesterday I was too afraid to ask yet and they’d be strict about the requirements I would feel crushed bec me and my fiance have been so far apart from each other already
yes we liked St. Monica’s my parish chruch and it’s being painted the last day was my intended date and I cant do the other weekends bec of my colleagues schedules, hope my boss will be more flexible too, as soon as I did my research felt like things were conspiring against us
Post # 5
I haven’t even gotten to the pre-cana and I’ve had to delay my marriage. My priest was all like "I can’t even schedule you till this summer because you two are from different diocese." I ended up talking to other priests, Catholic friends and the Dean of our deanery. This is not at all usual and now I’m finding out that another couple who already had their date set are being told that there’s no way he can do the wedding so soon.
You need to contact parishes in your area. If you get a rude secetary, schedule an appointment with the priest just to talk it over, not to schedule a wedding. Sometimes its just the secretary.
Overall entrust your life to God. Stay close to Him in prayer and remember He’ll provide you with all the opportunities needed to do His will. The key is to not get so stuck on "It has to be this way by this time" that you stress yourself out, build resentment and end up having a ton of arguments with your fiance’. Divine Mercy Sunday is next week. Focus yourself on Easter and on Christ’s love and mercy. Look at the image of Divine Mercy and just say "Jesus, I trust in You." Remember we always pray for Thy will be done, not My will be done. Entrust your life more completely to God and when struggles like this happen, you’ll more easily find the patience you need to endure them. This will better allow you to do whatever you’re capable of doing. You won’t have to worry about "It didn’t happen because I failed. I didn’t do enough." You will be able to do what you can and let go of the things that simply are out of your control. Entrust those things to God, and you will find greater peace and contentment.
Post # 6
We are in the same boat of planning a Catholic wedding and not having the ceremony where we live. What I was told, is that the priest where you live petitions the bishop of where you live for the marriage, the bishop then petitions the bishop where you are getting married, who finally reccomends you for marriage to the priest doing the ceremony.
Is there a way that you could use a web camera and like skype or something like that to do the pre-cann with your priest? That may be an idea.