- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
Fiance and I are getting married shortly. He is Catholic while I am Protestant. We’re getting in married in my church, however, a Catholic deacon will be speaking on our behalf during the ceremony. We decided to take our Pre-Cana classes over two Saturdays. I was not a fan of this. I was thinking that they would condemn me for not being Catholic, that it would be a waste of time. I really, really didn’t want to go, but I didn’t want to let my Fiance know. I figured it was all part of that compromise thing. We still have one more class to go, and guess what?
I was wrong.
I’ve actually found Pre-Cana really helpful, and Fiance did, too (he wasn’t enthusiastic about it, either). Our class is run by an older couple. They’re a bit cheesy, but they’re nice people. Our class had about 12 couples in it. We watched a video that went along with our book. The class followed a format: Watch the video segment that related to the chapter, the couple would talk a little bit, and then we got time to go talk by ourselves.
We did talk about interfaith marriages. I was happy to see that the church was more open than what I thought. They encouraged us to celebrate our faiths together, as well as gave us some other talking points. I felt that they were encouraging us that we can make things work with two different faiths. I definitely didn’t feel ostracized or anything.
Fiance and I did talk about everything, either during the class or afterwards. It may have been a little redundant at times, but this way, we knew that we weren’t assuming anything.
I am actually looking forward to our second class, cheesiness and all :-). I’m writing this as a Public Service Announcement to anyone who may be a little nervous about taking the classes, or even if you think they might be silly. Some things are, don’t get me wrong, but I feel that they’ve really helped us think about some things.