(Closed) Pre Cana – NYC

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

First of all, congratulations! 

I don’t have any recommendations in NYC, but I want to mention two things.  First, your fiance doesn’t need to promise anything to the Catholic Church, you do.  Second, pre-cana is usually done on a diocese basis, not in a parish, so you’d attend the same pre-cana in the Archdiocese of New York regardless of the parish at which you’re married.  The Family Life Office has the options here:  http://flrl.org/MarriagePreparation.htm#Marriage_Preparation_Workshop_

If you’re concerned about a conservative priest giving you some trouble about cohabitation and birth control, maybe you should meet with a priest by yourself at first before bringing him in.  Remember, a deacon can also marry you.  Good luck.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I don’t have a recommendation for a church. But, to help with pre-cana in NYC, you have to do it in the diocese of the church where you are getting married, not where you live. As an example, we live in Queens and are having our cermemony in Brooklyn, so we had to do our pre-cana in Brooklyn. You also don’t have to do your pre-cana at the church where you are getting married, just in the same diocese. If you decide to get married in a different borough than Manhattan, you will  need to get a letter of permission from your parish to marry in a different diocese.

Hope this helps, and good luck

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Beluga Whale:My husband I did our pre-Cana at the church we go to in Montana, but we got married at my parents’ church in Virginia. It was fine! The church just faxes over your certification to where you are getting married. I would think its better, even, to do it at the church you will be going to, not just the one you are getting married at.

I think there are even on-line versions for people who really don’t have other options.

Post # 7
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350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@Beluga Whale:  When you’re doing a destination wedding, your local parish calls the wedding parish to coordinate the pre-cana with them.  Then you do all of your wedding prep at your local parish who approves you to be married (you understand the importance of marriage, it’s been verified that you’ve never been married, etc).

“Behind the scenes” the local parish sends their approval to the local bishop’s office, who certifies the approval and sends it to the wedding parish’s bishop.  The wedding parish’s bishop then sends the approval to the wedding parish who marries you.

I’ve seen a case before where the groom was outside the US (without a visa), the bride was in California, and the wedding was in New Jersey.  The groom’s non-US priest did some prep for the groom, the bride’s priest in California did the prep for the bride, and both priests and the couple did skype pre-cana, which was then approved by the California priests’ bishop and the certification was sent to New Jersey for the wedding. 

 

 

 

 

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