Post # 1
So, our priest is really laid back and is allowing us to opt out of pre-cana classes if we want to. He said it would be fine for us to go through the materials on our own – which is really helpful since the class schedule conflicts with other weekly commitments we both have.
He said we could get ‘the book(s)’ but I’m not sure what I’m supposed to be looking for and if I can get them myself! I’m going through the listings on Catholic online book stores – I would appreciate any help people could give me!
Post # 3
Probably “Together For Life.” It’s the classic.
Also, somebody gave us “When Love is Found” which is a good one too. A little more in-depth than “Together For Life.”
Post # 4
Together for Life was the book we got at our pre-cana classes. I’m majorly jealous you get to do them on your own. I don’t feel like we got anything out of our 2 long classes.
Post # 5
Together for Life probably isn’t the best book for pre-cana. Don’t get me wrong – it’s the best book out there for planning the actual wedding ceremony. But it doesn’t really get into the stuff normally discussed at pre-cana (the theology of marriage, what Christ teaches about marriage, how to resolve conflicts, how to manage finances, etc.) I don’t know of a good book that covers all of those topics, which is why there’s pre-cana.
I haven’t used this service, but the USCCB approves of the use of this website: http://www.catholicmarriagepreponline.com/ for online pre-cana. That might be a good option for you.
Post # 6
@CatholicBee: www.foryourmarriage.org is a great website too by the USCCB. Seriously. Weddingbee probably thinks I work for them cause I link to it all the time, but I really like it.
Post # 7
My fiance and I did a private pre cana with an awesome instructor. He pulled in a lot of psychology research findings, which I really liked.
He recommended two books by John Gottman — “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” and “Why Marriages Succeed or Fail.” I haven’t read these but he shared a lot of what was in the books and it was really helpful.
He also recommened Pope John Paul II’s book “Love and Responsibility,” which seems more philosophical.