(Closed) Pre Cana or Engaged Encounter?

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  We wanted to do a retreat type thing (I’m assuming that’s what EE is…I’m not familiar with a lot of these things), but we ran out of time and weren’t able to book it. We’re taking our pre-cana classes currently. We meet twice, on Saturdays, from 9am – 2pm. Our final one is this weekend. I enjoyed it more than I thought (quick background: Fiance is Catholic, I’m Protestant). It got us talking about all sorts of different things. We know each other pretty well. We could have skipped over certain questions, but we decided to stick to the book and go over everything, in case we were assuming the wrong thing.

 

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I really wanted to go to the Encounter because it’s right on the beach and I love retreats. I haven’t been to one in a long time! But fiance did not want to do that as he doesn’t like retreats and is more academic. He wants time to break each session down. He said if we go to EE, he won’t remember half of it which is not what I want. It’s up to you!

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@DEBeachGirl:  I really think they do as I was certain our pre-cana was a series of hours over the course of weeks and it’s just twice. Once 8am – 6pm and again with a married couple for a few hours.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My Fiance and I did EE.  Its good, in so much that it gets you discussing all the “big” issues and questions that you need to discuss before marriage.  I won’t say that we learned a lot from it, because Fiance and I had already discussed in depth about 99% of the topics they brought up, but we hit that 1% we had been avoiding (finances!!!, lol) and it was good to discuss it in a conflict-free zone.   The lead married couples didn’t bring up the super-religous-y talks until the last day…  I’m the Catholic, and my Fiance is a non-denominational Christian, and neither of us found the religious-y discussions overly Catholic.  There was nothing about pushing the Catholic faith on the non-Catholic person, which is GOOD.   Most of the couples in our group were mixed faith, only a few were both Catholic.   There was a priest there, on hand for Confession and the like, but our EE was led by two married couples, which I thought was nice, because they are going to tell you what married life is like, really like, not the fairy-tale version of how it should be in movies.    

 

We have to still meet with my hometown priest/deacon a few times, but I’m glad we did EE and got it out of the way.    Yes it was a bit expensive, but for Fiance and I it was totally worth it to get it done in the period of 1 weekend.   

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We are doing both. We did Pre Cana for 6 weeks (I think) our EE is for one weekend in August.

Post # 23
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m not sure what we are going to be doing. My fiance lives on the other side of Canada. I think a weekend retreat may be best for us because we don’t live in the same city. I’ll tell you this much it’s going to be a challenge for us to get all our classes done. 

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We were required to do EE. I really enjoyed it, but caught a cold that weekend and didn’t enjoy that.

Fiance is not Catholic, but has been going to Mass with me for the past year. He grew up Lutheran and attended Catholic school. It’s good whether both are Catholic or not.

My parents were active in Marriage Encounter when I was younger. It really helped me see how those weekends strengthened their marriage.

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