Post # 1
Starting our Pre-Cana classes tonight! We have them for four weeks on Wednesday nights. We can’t do weekend ones because of a schedule conflict. Not really too sure what to expect, was anyone else nervous before their classes?
Post # 3
I was super nervous before our first one, like to the point of almost not wanting to go. But it’s really not that bad. We actually have our last one in two weeks and I’m really excited about it.
Post # 4
We had mixed feelings before the classes too! We attended the weekend classes. It’s really not that bad. Since your classes are shorter it might not be as dragged out as the weekend classes. One of our classes the time went by quick ( depend on the topic). We enjoyed it and found it helpful. It also depend on your instructors ours were pretty good. Some of the topics they talk about are natural family planning (this is a long topic) and money. They also give you workbooks to do excises.
Post # 5
my fiance couldn’t make it to the weekly classes, so we did a one day class on a saturday and we really enjoyed it (and i probably would have enjoyed it more if my period hadn’t decided to invade on that day). i wanna say there were about 12 couples in our class and everyone was fun to be around.
i was nervous, but that went away as soon as the class got started. they covered 4 topics: finances, communication, interpersonal relationships, & sexuality. all the instructors/speakers were interesting and relatable. they didn’t paint a picture of themselves as as these “perfect christian couples with the perfect lives and it’s all because of jesus.” they were very real and told us about the ups & downs of their marriages and basically said, “shit happens, but you gotta work through it.” one of the most memorable things that one of the speakers said was that if you’re going to argue, do it naked. because you can’t get too mad (or stay mad for too long) if you’re naked. my fiance and i always bring that up when we have a disagreement, lol.
it wasn’t overly preachy and as previously mentioned, we had workbooks with exercises to do with our partners. we didn’t have to share any details about our relationship with everybody.
the person who was supposed to do the discussion on sexuality couldn’t make it at the last minute, so the deacon (who was kinda supervising everything) was like, “well….i’m not really qualified to lead the sexuality class….so just go thru your workbooks and do the exercises and talk about it with each other.” it was kinda funny, lol.
but yeah, it’s nothing to worry about!
Post # 6
I was really nervous about ours too, but it really wasn’t as scary as I made it out to be in my mind. We basically all sat down, introduced ourselves, and then listened to speakers talk about different subjects. We also got workbooks, a bible, and some really helpful resources. After each subject, we were given the opportunity to discuss the topics one-on-one with our partners. It’ll be fine and you’ll feel silly afterwards for getting nervous – I know I did!!! 🙂 No worries!
Post # 7
Thank you everyone! It went much better than I expected! The workbooks made it easy I think and the presenters were actually pretty funny too, so that made it go pretty quickly and smoothly. I was surprised at how many couples were there…40! Thanks again! Good luck with your wedding planning!
Post # 8
Wow! You had a big class! I think we had about 10-12 couples in ours. Fiance and I just had our first Pre-Cana class today (six weeks before the wedding…we’ve been living in different states, so this was how it worked out). I was nervous, being a non-Catholic and all. I was afraid that I would hear that our marriage was doomed because we come from different religious backgrounds (both Christian, but I’m Protestant). I was pleasantly surprised. The couple leading it were a bit cheesy, but they were nice. They weren’t condescending at all. We watched a video, talked about each segment, then split off to talk about our work books. The day actually went much faster than I thought it would. We still have another five hour day in about two weeks.
Post # 9
im kind ofthe opposite of everyone. fiance is religious and i am not. we did a full day of pre cana. it wasnt as bad as i had expected, however, i didnt really learn anything. so that was a little disapointing. he did, so it wasnt a complete wash. i was suprised that it seems so many couples hadnt discussed alot of the things before hand. i guess he and i communicate alot more than some.
Post # 10
@Miarose: yeah, most of the stuff that was covered in all our classes (the marine corps has their own set of pre-marital classes that we were required to attend) was stuff we had already talked about so there weren’t any real surprises for us. but i’m still glad we went thru all of it. it reassured me that we’re ready to be married and we’re definitely right for each other. not that i had any doubts before, it just made me more confident.