Post # 1
We are having a 6pm Saturday wedding. Our ceremony should last max 20 minutes, followed by a cocktail hour with passed appetizers, and then a formal seated dinner. The open bar starts during the cocktail hour. We are asking guests to arrive around 5:30pm for seating purposes. I’m worried that guests might need something to nibble and drink before the ceremony. Am I overthinking this or is this something folks might appreciate? Suggestions welcome.
Post # 3
@atlbride2013: I’ve never heard of this before, but I think it’s a nice idea IF you can afford it and won’t break the bank by offering it. I certainly wouldn’t turn down a drink and a snack if I was arriving 30 minutes before the ceremony, but I also wouldn’t be upset if it wasn’t offered. I voted for the first option. It’s a nice touch, but probably unnecessary.
Post # 4
I think just fruit-infused water and lemonade would be fine. Our caterer offered this a a complimentary service and set it up about 30 minutes prior to arrival. Most guests didn’t show up until about 5-10 minutes prior anyway.
I’ve been to a wedding where there was bite-size pastries and cookies, along with tea, coffee and water, but that was because the couple had two ceremonies (two religions/cultures) and it involved travelling from point A to point B with a significant time gap in between. In this instance, the couple served it at the second location before the second ceremony. It was well-received, although most people just grabbed a beverage. They had a lot of food left over.
Post # 5
I think water and lemonade would be great. I’m doing a lemonade. iced tea & fruit infused water station at my wedding…but I paid for the open bar package at my venue. It’s not costing us anything extra.
Post # 6
@atlbride2013: That’s such a considerate idea, I thought about doing it after reading your post but then I remembered how quickly my wedding budget is circling the drain 😉 Normally I’d say it’s not necessary but if you really want people to come that early I think light refreshments would be nice. That way you can tell your guests that that’s the reason for their early arrival, otherwise I’d be a little bummed to wait around half an hour before the ceremony. Plus I’m usually about half an hour early for time-sensitive events like weddings so if you told me it actually started at 5:30 I’d show up at 5 and that’d be a long hour waiting.
Post # 7
I would say food isn’t necessary, but for September in Atlanta something to drink, even if it’s just water, would be nice. We’re doing (probably) a water and lemonade station (for April in the SF bay area)
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2014 - Squaw Valley
I didn’t vote, since I’m in between opinions. I love the idea of drinks at the ceremony site – infused water & maybe some champagne? I’ve been to a couple warm weather outdoor cenrmonies that had this & I thought it was a really nice touch. But, I don’t really feel that food is necessary for the ceremony site. (I don’t think I would like people with a handfull of cheese and crackers munching away durring my ceremony)
Post # 10
Depends on the ceremony, is it outside in the heat… If so a refreshment very a very good idea (and hospitable) if its 20 mins on time in a church there is really no need especially if your having a cocktail hour
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
i’d love a cold drink – especially if it were alcoholic! 🙂 Food seems unnecessary.
Post # 12
it’s a nice touch, but not really necessary. i’d do just drinks tho, not food. if you’re having an outdoor wedding on a warm day, i’d definitely appreciate a cold drink.
i went to a wedding last year where pre-ceremony drinks were provided. it was the first time i’d seen that done. i think they did it partly because the bride was running behind schedule, so they wanted to keep everyone occupied, haha.
Post # 13
We had an outdoor ceremony and had the bar open and appetizers passed when guests arrived. The ceremony started about 20 minutes later.
Post # 14
I think it is a good idea if it is a long ceremony and the timings prevent people from eating say lunch or something. Over here it isn’t something that I have ever seen or heard of being done, however our ceremony will be about an hour and it starts early also. So FI and I have hired the church which is connected to the church we are being married in. The other church is more of a hall and it has tea and coffee facilities, so we are going to provide hot drinks and some home made cake and biscuits. Our ceremony starts at 12.30pm and our wedding breakfast won’t be until 4.30pm so people are going to be hungry we are serving canapés at cocktail hour and later on in the evening after the wedding breakfast we are having a buffet of bacon rolls and Brie and cranberry rolls. Can’t have people going hungry when it will be over a 12 hour day! The handy thing about there being two churches connected means if it rains being November and well the UK people can get dry and warm and not be stood hanging around.
Post # 15
Thanks everyone for your replies, we decided that since we’re doing passed appetizers after the ceremony and everything takes place in one ballroom (ceremony/reception), with a 20 minute ceremony time, we’re just going to have the infused water. We’re limited with the open bar and booze because we only get it for 4 or 5 hours so we can’t open it until after the ceremony or we’ll have to shut it early during the reception.
Post # 16
@atlbride2013: Is your ceremony outside on a hot day? Then maybe. If not, I wouldn’t waste your money. Your guests will be fine. I definitely wouldn’t want people drinking lemonade and eating small plates of food during my ceremony. No thank you. Most guests don’t show up until 10-15 minutes prior anyways.